Evolution of the Self

On the paradoxes of personality.

Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., who holds doctorates in English and Psychology, is a clinical psychologist and author of Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy. See full bio

October 10, 2008, Happiness

Comments on "The Power to Be Vulnerable (Part 2 of 3)"

The Power to Be Vulnerable (Part 2 of 3)

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. on October 10, 2008 in Evolution of the Self

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I wish people could be

Submitted by barb on October 10, 2008 - 12:29pm.

I wish people could be taught this information as they grow to adult-hood. It seems like a simple "change in attitude"... it's all there inside, we just have to jump "outside of the box" and view ourselves from a different perspective.

I look forward to reading ways to self-soothe. Just getting a little breath in between judging ourselves can give us the time to regroup and self-validate instead of self-hate.

thanks for the articles.

the problems is there

Submitted by farouk on October 11, 2008 - 4:19am.

the problems is there because of parents and media, how would the child know such information while his parents and the media says something else, i agree with you

what a wonderful series

Submitted by Kristina B on October 11, 2008 - 9:38pm.

I do not normally comment in anonymous spaces like this one, but I just wanted to thank you, Dr. Seltzer for such an insightful series.

I am interested in this topic of self-soothing both personally (of course) and professionally. As the previous commenter suggests, I wonder why we haven't begun to integrate this type of learning into parenting practices. Perhaps we humans are only now beginning to be able to take such a meta-view of ourselves and imagine the possible implications.

It is profoundly soothing to me to see this here and know that I am not the only one in the world who is not so good at this all the time! Again, thanks.