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Evolution of the Self

On the paradoxes of personality.
by Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D.
Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., who holds doctorates in English and Psychology, is a clinical psychologist and author of Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy. See full bio
July 21, 2008, Addiction

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From Parent-Pleasing to People-Pleasing (Part 1 of 3)

By Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. on July 21, 2008 in Evolution of the Self

People-pleasers are proficient at pleasing everyone . . . but themselves. They are master accommodators, intuiting what is wanted of them and--in both word and deed--bestowing on others the attentiveness and care they’ll typically deny themselves. So frequently do they defer to others’ preferences that at some point they’ll actually lose sight of their own.

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A Day Late

Submitted by Shamrock on July 23, 2008 - 1:18pm.

I just got the chance to read the blog and I'm surprised no one else has commented. Great post, but you left me on the edge of my seat. I can't wait for Part II.

--Signed, Patented People-Pleaser ;)

Chorus

Submitted by Anonymous (M, 22) on July 24, 2008 - 5:14am.

I'm with Shamrock. Great article! I'm really excited to read the next parts.

Just like looking in the mirror!

Submitted by Anonymous on July 24, 2008 - 7:06am.

Great Blog! I can't wait to read part 2 & 3.

this article is

Submitted by moayed on August 15, 2008 - 3:07am.

this article is excellent
it's like u r describing me

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