- Home
- Find a Therapist
- Topic Streams
- Get Help
Mental Health
Addiction
ADHD
Anxiety
Asperger's
Autism
Bipolar Disorder
Depression
Eating Disorders
Insomnia
OCDPersonality
Passive Aggression
Personality
ShynessPersonal Growth
Happiness
Goal Setting
Positive PsychologyRelationships
Low Sexual Desire
Relationships
SexEmotion Management
Anger
Procrastination
StressFamily Life
Adolescents
Child Development
Elder Care
Parenting
SiblingsRecently Diagnosed?
Diagnosis Dictionary
- Magazine
- Tests
- Psych Basics
- Experts
People-pleasers are proficient at pleasing everyone . . . but themselves. They are master accommodators, intuiting what is wanted of them and--in both word and deed--bestowing on others the attentiveness and care they’ll typically deny themselves. Read More
A Day Late
I just got the chance to read the blog and I'm surprised no one else has commented. Great post, but you left me on the edge of my seat. I can't wait for Part II.
--Signed, Patented People-Pleaser ;)
Chorus
I'm with Shamrock. Great article! I'm really excited to read the next parts.
Just like looking in the mirror!
Great Blog! I can't wait to read part 2 & 3.
this article is
this article is excellent
it's like u r describing me
Brutal but Brilliant
I agree with everyone who has posted so far. The article was absolutely brutal, but at the same time, I think I have thought and agreed with everything that was said in the article, in my past, in one form or another.
One could say that everyone in my family is a people pleaser; each has their own degree of pleasing others of course.
Currently, though, my sister is desperately struggling with wanting to 'people-please;' it seems as though she would rather risk her sobriety, her career, and her independence, than to tell her boyfriend she needs some space and time to get on her feet and establish a feeling of self reliance. I feel, as her sister, that I want to give her some advice. However, being a people pleaser myself, I do not want to hurt her emotionally and set her off into that awful cycle of depression and drinking that she has gotten herself into before. I also feel that my advice would not be objective and therefore not effective enough to make her "see the light." I realize these could just be excuses that I am creating so I do not have to approach her myself, but at this point, I just don't know what is best and the situation i fear is extremely urgent.
Does anyone have any suggestions or advice for me to help my sister/get her some help?
Thank you so much.
-the desperate heart of all people pleasers
First things first
In my non-professional opinion, treating her depression comes before solving excessive people pleasing. A psychiatrist may determine that the alcohol is an attempt at self-medication. Since it is a depressant, it's obviously not the way to go.
Cognitive therapy may be able to tackle the co-morbidity of depression and the people-pleasing problem. They could be two sides of the same coin. But the psychiatrist may prescribes pharmaceuticals first to maximize the effectiveness of the talk therapy.
Um - Yes
Sad but true you are describing me to a tee... Am waiting on what more you have to say - this is EXACTLY right. Question - who do you see about this -what do you do about it if you can't sit for hours of therapy...
If you check on Amazon you'll
If you check on Amazon you'll find books that you can read on the subject that should assist you in your desire to change. But first, read parts 2 & 3 of this post to get additional suggestions, ok? To locate these parts quickly, just go to what's now page 8 for my postings.
In my personal opinion, this
In my personal opinion, this blog was pointless, unprofessional, and redundant.
Although "people-pleasing" can be a very severe personality flaw, it is also a necessary attribute to every person's being. In fact, the thought pattern of putting others before oneself is hardly a personality handicap at all.
This was uninformative, opinionated, and not helpful to anyone actually suffering from this "disorder".
I appreciate your comments,
I appreciate your comments, but I believe you may have misunderstood me. You might wish to read Parts 2 & 3 and see whether you still have the same impression, okay?
I appreciate your appreciation
How very nice of you to respond. I'm not used to this.
Of course, I will read Parts 2 and 3. I should have waited until you completed your thoughts before I started commenting.
Post new comment