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Well ...

I was just about to say that many of these don't match until I got to number 13 and could sort of relate to it. Still they fail to paint a clearly visible picture and in most cases can even miss a vital characteristic or get it entirely wrong. I do think there could be something of value in this idea but I'm not sure if generalizing it so easily is the way to go.

Well thought out though.

I welcome your criticism.

I welcome your criticism. What 'qualities' have I missed in your view?

I just mean that some of the

I just mean that some of the characteristics which apply are scattered throughout other metaphor types and there are always exceptions. However as I said - there is something to it. A life metaphor is based on the early life and up to the present day, so in a way it is a reflection of how one was brought up and thus' correlates to the behaviors of that person.

I argue that everyone is unique not because he/she is a completely different person but because he/she shows a different variety of common characteristics. So there is a large number of behavioural patterns shared among all human beings, however, each person has a different degree in each of them (e.g. we all have a characteristic aggressiveness it just shows differently in all of us and some aren't agressive at all).

So to say that someones life metaphor defines that person in such a strict way doesn't neccessarily hold out (at least not in some cases).

But to answer your question, I would take 'qualities' from all across the board and mix it into:
- difficult childhood, pessimistic, dreams of being a hero (from 1.)
- patient, cooperative (from 2.)
- humble, ambitious but unfocused, well-meaning (from 3.)
- depressed, unhealthy, lonely (from 4.)
- nature loving, un-self-trusting, dreams of being enlightened (from 5.)
- abuse childhood, dreams of being safe (from 6.)
- professionally lost (from 9.)
- Unpretentious, accepting, empathic, faithful in love and friendship, self-esteem issues in childhood, dreams (more thinks than dreams) of belonging (from 10.)
- pessimistic, long-suffering, self-doubting, isolated childhood, dreams (more thinks than dreams) of being able to rest (from 12.)
- non-committal resists attachment, agnostic but cynical, hope-resistant, fearful, intellectually vague, neglected childhood, dreams of having a home (from 13.)
- judgmental, self-hating, molested in childhood (from 14.)
- self-questioning, humility-addicted (from 15.)

To end with a metaphor/analogy:
To define someone with a general model is merely a secant line on a circle - you draw a lot of lines and one of them usually crosses the circle at least once, but you miss the infinite dots that comprise that circle which is a personality.

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Mark Matousek is the award-winning author of two memoirs, Sex Death Enlightenment (an international bestseller) and The Boy He Left Behind. His new book is Ethical Wisdom: What Makes Us Good.

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