So, why did you marry your father? If we consider that question within the context of this system of understanding, the answer would be "Because he didn't love you in the way that you needed to be loved".

Your father's failure to activate the Mother (nurturance) allowed the Victim to become dominant in you -- leaving you feeling both unlovable and unloved. Since we typically seek out what we know, and nature tends toward balance, we would, in this example, be prone to choose someone who exhibits that same quality of non-nurturance in an effort to bring the Mother/Victim archetype back into balance within ourselves. We are trying to fix what we unconsciously and psychodynamically perceive as broken. Ah...the plot thins...and the circle closes.

As an exercise, try thinking about which archetypes are active in your life and how the balance or imbalance of archetypal pairs may be influencing your world, or even interfering with a broader expression of adaptive behavior. You can use the chart provided as a starting point, but remember this is only a small number of the archetypes active in our culture today.