Ending Addiction for Good

Posttraumatic Growth: Addiction as Positive Transformation

This is not to suggest that people seek addiction, just as it would be unwise to seek abuse, a car crash or combat trauma. But for those addicted, there is definite, scientific hope for positive outcomes in recovery. Read More

Bipolar Disorder/ADHD/Severe social anxiety

What pill do they make for this? Are drug companies in a capitalistic mindset put the patient before profit? Where are these studies proving efficacy over placebos, also may another person observe the procedure?

There is no pill...

There is no pill that creates "posttraumatic growth." The idea is that when you have tragic or difficult events in your life, you use them as an opportunity to become a better person, rather than being sunk by them.

Posttraumatic Growth

As a person in recovery, who like other people in recovery that didn't set out on a journey to become addicted, wreck my life and the lives and serenity of those people I love and care about, and who care for me, I had to step out of the mindset of shame and regret.

I recall saying to a therapist after I had attained a period of sobriety, and there had been some space for my brain to begin to repair itself, "getting sober was easy, compared to the work in front of me." I continue to move through my life with periods of peace and contentment, and inevitably to be blasted by another growing pain. ANFGP helps me to keep it simple.

When being in my head and feeling a fire beneath my own skin begins to cause distress, it serves as a warning- I'm becoming complacent, or another layer of being human is in need of self reflection, and is searching for relief. I remind myself I didn't get sober to be or to become miserable.

Currently, the last two years of my life have been more stressful than I ever imagined life could be. Having had limited exposure to my first family and learning new interpersonal skills, becoming rooted in myself- in very short order I've been thrust into a stagnant pool of dysfunction with the death of my father. I worked through blaming my family many many years ago. I never quit loving them. However, amidst the crisis of loosing my beloved father, so much has been revealed while caring for my mother and supporting her through a second breast cancer diagnosis and eventual nervous breakdown, it didn't take long for me to assume my well ingrained family role- the "sober me role that is.

The eldest, having been by birth order, assigned the job of "setting an example," responsibility, care-taking, trying to balance the impossible task of what others can and should be doing for themselves. Fearful for the lives of nephews addicted to heroin, and finally a trusted therapist flaking out and requesting my assistance in ways I very recently realize has created harm. All this garbage hit the fan when I had made the decision to return to school to pursue my newly created dreams. A gift to myself, and a gift to those that also suffer from the slavery of addiction. I never want to go back to my first profession. I belong in a helping profession, I've known this all my life.

Am I grateful for the trauma and lessons of my addictions? You bet I am. Am I tired and emotionally exhausted? Yes, but in my recovery I've gained tools to freedom, and my life requires that I get to work some more. Without the gift of addiction and the gifts of recovery- I can't imagine ever having gained the knowledge and wisdom to look at situations like this with patience, empathy and compassion, not only for others who suffer, but the ability to recognize that I suffer too, and that I can continue to grow and mature without medicating the anger, frustration, and pain. As Ram Dass says, "we're all walking each other home."

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Richard Taite is CEO and founder of the Cliffside Malibu Treatment Center in Malibu, California and co-author of the book Ending Addiction for Good.

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