Emotional Freedom

How to liberate yourself from negative emotions and create a positive life.

Are You a Good Lover?

Dr. Orloff discusses from her book, The Ecstasy of Surrender the qualities of being a good lover. First, you must learn to completely inhabit your body and the moment. Read More


If your lover scores 0/10, what do you do?

If you score 0/10 I would

If you score 0/10 I would recommend reading my new book, The Ecstasy of Surrender. If you pre-order it now at http://drjudithorloff.com/ecstasy-surrender-pre-launch/index2.htm#.UtVeq... you can receive gifts valued at $275.

If I read it, will it have

If I read it, will it have any impact on my 0/10 partner? If they don't believe any of those things are important, and believe in some cases (e.g. you should NEVER be vulnerable, you should ALWAYS be judgemental, you should NEVER beplayful) that your ideas are simply wrong and an attack on their "self", will your book help?

There are no promises in life.

It might. It might not. You have to decide whether improving your relationship is worth the risk and if any avenue is likely to help.

Why does your partner feel they can never be vulnerable? I bet there are some clues in there that are worth following up on.

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Judith Orloff, M.D., is an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and the author of Emotional Freedom.


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