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10 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Maintaining your self-confidence is essential to having a fulfilled life.

Learning how to rebuild and maintain your self-confidence is essential to having a fulfilled life. There will always be things that come along and make you question if you are good enough. When that happens to you, using these tools will get you back in touch with your personal power.

S - Strength, the power within, is what you can call upon when the chips are down and you are considering cashing in. Using your inner resources to pull yourself up by your bootstraps will give you the sense that you can deal with anything life throws at you.

E - Enlightenment, the ability to know that you know, keeps you solid in your choices and decisions. Your thoughts can change with the wind, but your inner knowledge is unshakable.

L - Love of self may be one of the most underutilized sources of self-esteem. We can be harder on ourselves than on any other person. Consciously giving yourself a break and not falling into the trap of self-denigration will allow you to save your energy for the important parts of life.

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F - Fulfillment is a misunderstood quality. It isn't about not having any more room for additional emotions, but rather it's about being open and looking for feeling that will add to our wellbeing.

E - Energy, in the form of positive feelings and deeds, feeds our minds and hearts. When you don't have energy, you can't feel good about yourself or anything else, and the best way to get energy is to do something physical like exercise.

S - Selflessness, that quality of putting others before yourself, is a great way to build your self-esteem and to contribute to those who need you, at the same time. If you do nothing else today, help someone who needs it and then see how you feel.

T - Trust must first be given to yourself. Your self-doubt works directly against your self-esteem. Believe that you are here for the right reasons and that your participation in life is valuable to those around you.

E - Emotions, being in touch with your feelings, will make you a better person, as well as a better parent and partner. Being true to your emotions can't help but make you feel better about yourself.

E - Effectiveness, the ability to influence the world in a positive way, can be incredibly empowering. Leaving the planet a tiny bit better than you found it can bring meaning to anyone's life.

M - Motivation, that inner cheerleader, is what propels you to the next level in life. Wanting to have a positive impact on those around you is a great way to motivate yourself. It is also very life enhancing.

Getting started may be the hardest part, so I suggest that now is the time to use these tips to turn things around. Make the effort and you will feel the change sooner than you think.

 

 

Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist, columnist, and radio host. His latest book is The Happy Couple: How to Make Happiness a Habit One Little Loving Thing at a Time.

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