Emotional Fitness

Harness the power of emotion to deepen your love with your partner, become more successful at work, and more

10 Tips To Insure Your Child's Success

Teach your children how to be the best they can

Ten Tips To Insure Your Child's Success

Raising a child is a precious gift, but it is also a great challenge. Here are ten tips to help ease the burden of getting your kids to adulthood.

1. Have dinner as a family as often as possible. This is the single-most effective method of keeping your kids on the positive track and away from negative activities.
2. Get your children to summer school as well as summer camp. If your kids take three months off from thinking, it makes it hard to get back into gear when school starts again.
3. Don't let your kids have a television in their rooms. It's way too tempting to watch late-night shows, and then they won't get the sleep they need to get through the day. It also gives them an excuse to isolate themselves from the family. Whenever possible, make TV-watching a family affair.
4. Reward your kids for getting good grades. When you do well at your job, you get a raise, bonus, or promotion. If you acknowledge your kids with praise and some special activity or reward, they will be more motivated to achieve.
5. Listen when your children talk to you. This can be difficult at times, especially if you have a large family, but if your child feels unheard, he or she may resort to getting that attention by acting out negatively.
6. Keep your commitments. If you've made plans with your children, do everything you can to keep them. Breaking promises teaches your kids that it's okay to not keep your word.
7. Tell the truth. Being honest, without sharing things that are inappropriate for your children to hear, can be a challenge. It's always wise to edit yourself, but it's also important to speak what is real, for most kids can read between the lines.
8. Parent by example. If you want your kids to be good people, show them what that looks like by being a good person. Nothing speaks louder than your example.
9. Just say no. Setting appropriate limits and boundaries as well as giving proper direction is your job as a parent. Don't try to be your kid's best friend when what he or she really needs is a parent. Saying no may cause your child to be momentarily upset, but he or she feels more protected when you do.
10. Prepare your child for the big bad world. Take them to the bank or to your job, and expose them to what they will face as they grow up. It will help them to become the people you want them to be.

Find a Therapist

Search for a mental health professional near you.

Teaching your children how to be the best they can will also make your family life a little more interesting and a lot more connected. Try it.

 

 

Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist, columnist, and radio host. His latest book is The Happy Couple: How to Make Happiness a Habit One Little Loving Thing at a Time.

more...

Subscribe to Emotional Fitness

Current Issue

Just Say It

When and how should we open up to loved ones?