We have all, surely, made good resolutions. We will eat and drink less, exercise more, and be more patient and understanding with our loved ones. Some of us even write these resolutions down, or at least make lists of things we plan to do, or keep records of our attempts to fulfill our plans. This usually lasts for a short period and then our lists and plans peter out, we fall by the wayside, and relapse into the same behavior that made us make the resolutions in the first place.
So how to avoid this vicious cycle?
Something I have found helpful is not to be too hard on yourself. Don’t set impossible goals. Allow yourself a small line of chocolate, in the evening, for example, if you happen to have a sweet tooth; give yourself a day off from your exercise regimen or perhaps exercise every other day if you are running or doing something really strenuous and are no longer 21. Voice a precise and limited disagreement or feeling of dissatisfaction with a loved one, before it becomes overwhelming and breaks into full-blown anger. In other words allow yourself a little latitude which will enable you to keep the good resolution for a longer period at least.
Next, distract yourself with other activities that may also be helpful. If you are trying not to overeat get away from the kitchen, stay away from restaurants where the helpings are often more abundant, and it is harder to know what is being served.