Another safety seeking behavior that needs to be addressed more in-depth is reassurance seeking. Asking others for reassurance is what I call "Using an external conscience." Since I cannot trust my own judgment about this experience, I need you to tell me what you think about it. I will trust your judgment.
There is an inherent problem with this line of thinking, and that is believing that everyone else knows what is better for you to do than you do. If this is the way that you approach things, then there really is a problem, because for every person that you ask for reassurance, they will have a slightly different opinion or idea about what to do in the situation you find yourself in than the others you asked, and therefore you will still have to ultimately decide what it is you want to do anyway.
Plus, you are also putting your fate into the hands of others, and they are going to make suggestions based on their personalities and the way they see the world. If you do things because others tell you to do them, then you are choosing to live your life as they suggest and not as you necessarily want to.
Plus, there could be a real conundrum if you ask two people to give you reassurance about something and one tells you to do something one way, and the other tells you to do it in the opposite way. What are you to do then in that situation? Now you might disappoint one of your friends if you choose not to follow their advice. Or, if you do not follow their advice and something goes wrong, they might say, "I told you so." Is it worth the risk to have something like this happen? Hard to say.