The final safety seeking behavior that we need to investigate is distraction. The use of distraction allows you to actually do the thing that you are afraid of without actually being involved in doing it.
I know that sounds a bit confusing, so let me give you an example of how distraction works. If you are afraid of flying but have to fly, you may use distraction as your way of coping with your fear. Prior to getting on the plane, you may take several anti-anxiety medications. Then on the plane, you may order three shots of liquor. Further, though you are an agnostic, you say a rosary just in case you happen to be wrong, and you blast your music in your headphones as loud as possible so that you do not have to hear any of the airplane sounds, and you hold the hand of the person next to you, though you have never met them before.
While this may all sound as if it is what helps you to get through the flight, it is all just a big distraction from the fact that you are actually doing the very thing that you fear. If you want to really learn how to handle the flight, then you need to just get on the plane with nothing – no anti-anxiety medications (even medications in your pocket are reassurance for just in case you start to get anxious), no drinks, and no other distraction like music or reading materials. You need to just sit through a flight and learn that you can handle being on a plane.