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Sadly, we maintain so many cultural myths about romantic relationships that can ultimately be rather destructive. Somehow many have a romantically (and perhaps Hollywood) inspired myth that there is one perfect mate for them out there if only they can find them. Call it the Sleepless in Seattle effect (named after the popular Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan movie from a number of years ago) or maybe call it the needle in the haystack effect. It basically states that of the 7 billion people on the planet there is that one perfect person who is just right for you and your job is to find that soulmate made and ready just for you. Yeah, right! This is a common theme in movies but perhaps not so true in reality.
Additionally, we often have the view that once you partner with someone then your relationship is at high risk or is based on falsehoods if you find yourself attracted to or fantasize about someone else. Finally, we also have this view that being ambivalent about our partner is a sign that the relationship is broken or not right. All these myths are just that—myths!