We likely all want our intimate relationships to be loving and long lasting. Don't we? Then why are so many people so boneheaded about their choices in partners? Many seem unaware of the obvious predictors of relationship success and longevity? Somehow, too many people have the view that sexual chemistry, physical attraction, and love at first sight is what you should look for in a long term relationship. Perhaps this is a Hollywood based fantasy and myth. What better predicts long term success and happiness in an intimate relationship is more about compassion than passion. In a nutshell, compatibility matters, and matters big time!
Think about it. Long term relationships like marriages are partnerships in living. The vast majority of the time couples are together they are not having hot sex but are sharing a practical day-to-day life together. Raising children, working, managing a home, cooking and cleaning, shopping, being with friends and family, and the rest of regular daily living is really where the rubber meets the road in relationships and relationship satisfaction. If couples are not compatible in these areas then inevitably the connection and attraction will atrophy, tensions emerge, and too often relationships fracture and fall apart.