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Why Tiger Would

Think fame and fortune caused Tiger's transgressions? Not by a long shot.

When I heard the news that Tiger Woods smashed his car after leaving his house at some ungodly hour in the morning, I knew we were in for a tabloid blitz with speculations about the possible reasons for such a hasty exit. Then, once allegations of infidelity started to hit the airwaves, the inevitable happened- all eyes turned to the intriguing Tiger Woods mystery. Inquiring minds want to know, "What did he do?" "Why did he do it," "How often did he do it?" "What does this mean for his marriage and more importantly, his endorsements?" So many questions, so little time.

One hypothesis as to, "why he dunnit" is the "Fame, Fortune and a Sense of Entitlement Theory." In short, proponents of this theory believe that people- typically men- who are extremely successful, hold positions of power, or are in the public eye- politicians, CEO's, rock stars, movie stars, athletes, and so on- become intoxicated with their power, feel invincible and believe they can do anything they want without consequence. In short, these near-narcissists feel they are above it all. That's why, as the theory goes, infidelity is rampant among this elite group.

As a professional who specializes in marriages teetering on the brink of divorce and in infidelity in particular, I would like to take this opportunity to debunk the myth that the rich and famous have a corner on adulterous behavior. I see many blue collar, no-name truck drivers or tradesman and carpooling, stay-at-home moms slide down the slippery slope of making unfaithful, risk-taking, affair-seeking choices. Infidelity is an equal opportunity employer.

So, let's not be too quick to blame Tiger's fame, fortune or sense of entitlement for his poor choices. While it's true that, unlike Tiger, we don't all have adoring, drop-dead gorgeous fans throwing themselves at us- temptations abound in the workplace, in our neighborhoods and even in our places of worship. Although for years, Tiger's superhuman golfing skills have mesmerized us, it's important to remember that underneath it all, he is still just a person.

Michele Weiner Davis is the creator of the Divorce Busting Centers, learn more on how you can solve marriage problems and stop divorce. Follow me on Twitter @divorcebusting, add my Divorce Busting Facebook Page, and subscribe to the Divorce Busting YouTube Videos for more advice and upcoming marriage saving events.

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