Divorce Busting

Musings from an unabashed marriage saver.

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, is the Director of The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder, Colorado and Woodstock, Illinois and founder of divorcebusting.com. See full bio

February 18, 2009, Relationships

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The Marriage Map

By Michele Weiner-Davis on February 18, 2009 in Divorce Busting

As a long-time observer of relationships, I can tell you that, like children, marriages go through different developmental stages and predictable crises. But because people are unfamiliar with the normal hills and valleys of marriage, these predictable transitional periods are often misunderstood, causing over-reactions. Those who manage to weather these universal stormy periods usually come out the other side with greater love and commitment to their spouses. That's why I want to offer you a Marriage Map. Read More

i agree

Submitted by Anonymous on February 23, 2009 - 12:31pm.

This is a wonderful article. It's so wonderful that I am going to print it and re-read it from time to time so that the "map" stays ingrained in my head. I think the most insightful sentence of all, is when you say that we tend to think that whatever cycle we're in, it will be permanent. So true. I am in the second cycle right now, and am really trying to use reason to stick this through, because the emotion waxes and wanes. Thank you for summing this up for the rest of us!

Marriage Map its a great article

Submitted by Henry on April 24, 2009 - 5:58am.

Very Very true...I just started the last cycle
and its working! Its so easy to give up and I did
for about 5 years..but now Im putting more into
the 27 years of marriage and Im finding the womman
that I fell in love with ...very refreshing !