Michele
I am so sorry to hear about your mother's passing. My mother was also my best friend and mentor and died 3 years ago. There is still not a day I don't miss her but I will tell you that time smoothes the edges of your pain and helps you to be able to realize while your mother isn't still here with you that she is still with you. She's with you in all the memories and the traditions and teachings you pass along to others. You will see her in your daughter and in so many other places that will remind you of her.
MK

Thank you so much Michele for sharing your experience. I can only imagine how painful the past few weeks must have been for you. If it is any consolation, I just have a thought that might ease this pain a little bit: have you condisered that perhaps your mom could've had a stroke or something similar making her lose control of the car, and hence the possibility that she might not have been fully conscience when she has hit the rail? This maybe a much easier scenario to live with perhaps...I am sure this is a wound that you could not forget for many many years, however, time will heal it in a way that the scar would remain as a badge of honour for having known this beautiful soul that your mother sounds like she has been. All the best to you on this road.

Michelle and Family,
I was so sorry to hear this news about your dear Mother. You have helped me through a very tough time with my marriage and I wish I could help you. I will pray for you and hope that the special memories of your mom will help you through this very sad time.
God Bless You and your family.

Michelle and family,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother.
sincerely,
lw

God has your mother in heaven. Death is irreversible. Divorce should not be irreversible. Satan has my x wife here on earth. I think that her pride, and her need to keep up her image with her friends who relished the fight and the divorce, and her fear of losing face by admitting that she played a part in the breakdown of the marriage, keeps her from considering even talking with me. Our children say that she will not talk about me or our marriage.

I suppose she is with the rest of our society which says that because a judge said it is over, then it is over (and broken like Humpty Dumpty) and can never be put back together again. However, I think a marriage is more like chinaware than it is like an egg. Glue can make it almost as good as new. If only we could find that glue and be given the chance to apply it!

Do you have that particular glue?

Michelle, like your mother, please continue to do God's work here on earth. May God bless you and your family.

Dear Michele, It's time I wrote to you as you are a very special person in my life. I was so sorry to hear about your mother. What a shock for you to lose her that way. Having lost both of my parents, I know how hard it is to live without them. Thank you for sharing information about your mother's life. You are so much like her - you are a survivor, and someone that cares deeply about helping others face their struggles and live life to its fullest. Your mother lives on through you. Also, although you were not aware of it, you have helped me tremendously. When I left my husband in 1999, he decided not to give up on our marriage. Your Divorce Busting website was an answer to prayer. Sometime I need to share the rest of our story with you. Maybe it will be an encouragement to others to not give up. God bless you and your family.

I am very sorry for your loss. I have not meet you in person but your books had really helped me in a marriage crisis I had. Now I have a better relationship with my husband, and this makes us very happy.
Now I had other crisis I was diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 43, I am going through chemotherapy , reading about your mother give me hope and courage.
My best wishes for you

Claudia

i want to thank all of you who have written and expressed condolences. I truly appreciate it and am touched by your caring. I spend so much of my life helping people have happier lives and it feels good to have others- often complete strangers- offer me heartfelt support. So, thanks.

I also appreciate hearing that I have helped people with their marriages. As usual, that's always music to my ears.

Claudia,
You definitely need to know that a breast cancer diagnosis is NOT a death sentence by any stretch of the imagination. Our world is filled with millions of cancer survivors and you can be one of them. Read all you can about success cases and fill you mind with their stories and energies. You can do it. Cancer never stopped my mom. She just kept going and going. You can follow her lead. Believe you can.

Thanks all,
Michele

Michelle,
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mother.
Thank you for you note.

Hi Michelle

I'm sorry to hear about your loss and appreciate the reminders you have shared. You are in my thoughts.

Beautiful. And she would indeed want you to cherish the time you had together and to spend your hours loving life, yourself and others. Easy to say - butyou have my sincere wishes that you are closer to this place now.

Michele, this is a deep, deep topic, and I had to take a deep breath to delve in. Losing your beloved mother pulls up the panic that I feel every time I think about my own mother's passing. She is still here, for the time being, though we've had several close calls due to illness. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can tell that you find incredible comfort in the person that your mother was, and the life that she chose to lead. A true inspiration. Thank you for sharing this.

Michele,
Thank you for this post. I am very sorry for your loss. Your mother sounds like she was really wonderful, and very resilient. I applaud you for encouraging people to deal with their discomfort around death/loss/grief. It is interesting to run into your post today because I just wrote a post today on the same topic... to a certain extent.... (I am finally visiting your site because I am finally getting around to visiting all Blog Babes sites!)

I am going through a divorce and it is the right thing for my situation but I really appreciate your blog and I'd love to get your feedback on mine!

Chandi
http://italiandreams.wordpress.com