Divorce Busting

Excellent points, Michelle. Couples often look for the tip to make it all right. But learning how to iron out the unseen wrinkles, keeping emotions at bay, and working the real issue, not the circumstance, is what makes a good marriage better and a poor one stronger.

Jim
CoachOurMarriage

Michelle:

You makes some very good points here. In my own practice, I have found that, after money, sex and kids, one of the most greatest obstacles to marital 'bliss' is time.

The failure by couples to recognize that a relationship, whether it be a marriage or simply conjugal, -- and this is true for both traditional and non-traditional couples -- is a living, breathing entity that requires on-going attention and cultivation is one of the greatest downfalls to success.

The other thing of which I am constitently reminded is that couples who don't argue are also typically not communicating. Avoiding conflict is poison to a relationship.

Blessings,
Michael

That is a wonderful post. In addition, two people who match the "dominant" function of their personality types will boost the compatibility factor.

The question should not be what makes a marriage work but what keeps it from working. That would be DEPRESSION which you still ignore for your Oprah "pop" advice. SINCERELY-DAVID

"But if, over the long haul, there is more caring than competition, marriages can survive virtually any kind of infraction, crisis or misfortune."

I agree that this is crucial in marriage - and in other cooperative relationships. I tell couples that you can have control or you can have relationship, but you can't have both.