Divorce Busting

Musings from an unabashed marriage saver.

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, is the Director of The Divorce Busting Center in Boulder, Colorado and Woodstock, Illinois and founder of divorcebusting.com. See full bio

October 10, 2009

How to Choose a Good Marital Therapist

Seeking professional advice for your marital problems is no guarantee things will improve. In fact, many people have told me that their so-called marriage therapy even made things worse. Most therapists are well-meaning, but not always qualified to do marital therapy. That's why I want to offer some guidelines for you to consider should you seek professional help to improve your marriage. Read More

October 9, 2009

Look Before You Leap: Divorce Isn't All That It's Cracked Up to Be

Even when desired changes occur as a result of divorce, they are not without unintended consequences. Read about the unexpected fallout of divorce. Read More

August 28, 2009

The Foxes and the Rabbits

Have you ever said, "You started it," to your spouse when things have gone awry? Read this post to understand the real causes of problems in marriage. An individual's behavior often remains a mystery until you stand back and look at the bigger picture. Read More

April 1, 2009

X-treme Reminders

Sometimes you have to come preciptiously close to death to truly live... Read More

February 22, 2009

Reeling From Infidelity

Every once in a while I step back and think about the messages I give to couples in my practice, seminars, keynotes and in my writing. To be sure, I have been a psychotic optimist about people's ability to survive whatever comes their way in terms of marital challenges. Read More

February 18, 2009

The Marriage Map

As a long-time observer of relationships, I can tell you that, like children, marriages go through different developmental stages and predictable crises. But because people are unfamiliar with the normal hills and valleys of marriage, these predictable transitional periods are often misunderstood, causing over-reactions. Those who manage to weather these universal stormy periods usually come out the other side with greater love and commitment to their spouses. That's why I want to offer you a Marriage Map. Read More

February 6, 2009

Too Broke to Break Up

Call me an optimist, but in the midst of all the horrendous economic news, I see a silver lining. Despite people's lives being threatened by job loss, foreclosures and having trouble making ends meet, increasing numbers of couples are opting to stay together and make their marriages work. Why? Read More

January 25, 2009

"Why Can't You Say It This Way?"

Do you ever find yourself in the midst of heated conversation when, all of a sudden, your partner says something that just takes your breath away? But as you mull things over, you realize, "It's not what he's saying, it's how he's saying it," or "If she would just word it differently, I might be able to respond less defensively." Read More

December 24, 2008

The NEW New Year's Resolution

When nearly one out of every two marriages ends in divorce, why is it that people are so busy worshipping the Personal Improvement God/dess- wanting to be thinner, richer, healthier and smarter- rather than focusing on the improvements we can make to our important relationships in 2009? Read More

November 30, 2008

Love Interrupted

Today, I will take out time from my marital musings to write about a personal experience so profound, that it has nearly stopped me dead in my tracks. Read More

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Sex is the most profound and intimate way to express your love for someone. Different people enjoy and pursue sex in different forms—as the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal in human sexuality is variability itself. But within the universe of intimacy and pleasure that sex affords is a lot of room for error.

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