Debunking Myths of the Mind

nice post
Women Business
chirstopher
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I was dating a man who, from your description, was a selfish lover. I think he wasn't always that way though, but became so after a traumatic break-up. He seemed to be pushing me away despite liking me and wanting companionship, etc.. I had been the one to tell him I wasn't happy with how things were going between us. I did a lot to demonstrate I liked him and cared about him, but started to feel like it was one-sided. When he confirmed that he was still interested in me and had been wondering why he couldn't "commit" the way he thought I wanted, I noted that I didn't want to end it then. Too late though. He said I had still mentioned I was not content, and the he'd wonder if he was being genuine in his actions then-on. I do worry that I let my own fear of being strung along (though he said he wasn't doing that) take over and that I thus prevented things from possibly developing. Alas, it is done. He knows I care about him and think he's worth fighting for. I'm not going to hold my breath hoping that he'll come around, but I do wonder if a selfish lover can become less so when not in a relationship (i.e. by reflection, etc.).

I think this article is crap. Selfish lovers are just selfish. Period.