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Too Much of Anything Is Bad For You

This post explores the idea that many psychological variables, including personality traits and some skills and abilities are curvilinear when it comes to effectiveness and well-being. In other words, too much of some, perhaps most, things are bad for you. Read More

Too much money

You mention that having too much money may be a burden because of money management issues but I think it can also be problematic in relationships. If you are wealthy and looking for a partner you may question if they really like you or are just interested in your money. Also if you are very wealthy and have children it can be difficult to teach them about delayed gratification and they may be at risk for entitlement issues. I agree that balance is a crucial component to mental health.

Well, here is something we can agree on :-)

Even skill can be "too much" if it means you don't fit whatever group you're in. Of course, if you don't CARE to fit in, you just continue developing and move on. You can also exert control over how much of anything you express, but can still suffer the effects yourself, as where you noted that empathetic people can be swamped by the emotions of those around them.

I'd be willing, however, to throw myself on the grenade of "too much money" and see how I fare with it. I'd even keep note of what point becomes "too much" and share the findings with others. :-)

Easier said than done!

I suppose if we're honest with ourselves we know which areas we are strong and which area could use some tweaking.

I wonder though, is it easier for those who are "Too nice" to become more assertive and even increase their own narcissism to a healthier level, than it is for those who are too narcissistic to tone it down?

In my experience those who fall into the latter category are the ones who are lacking in self awareness and the ability to self reflect.

It's also been my experience that those who fall into the latter know how to play the "Nice" game and use covert tactics to get ahead.

You are right

I think you are hitting the nail on the head. Narcissistic leaders lack the insight and self-awareness, and that's why it is important that followers hold leaders accountable and challenge them. Some successful and narcissistic leaders have trusted colleagues who tell them when they are off-base, and that helps to keep them from going off the rails.

The perfectly average man...

The perfectly average man... not so bad!

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Ronald E. Riggio, Ph.D., is the Henry R. Kravis Professor of Leadership and Organizational Psychology at Claremont McKenna College.


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