Contemporary Psychoanalysis in Action

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Why We Procrastinate

Procrastination: What Are We Really Putting Off? Worry about being an “adult” might make us avoid our chores. Imagine the following scenario: You’re running late for an important appointment. You’ve overslept because the alarm app on your phone needs to be updated. By Lisa Juliano, PsyD. Read More

Procrastination

I'm a chronic procrastinator but I do so not because I fear adulthood. I just dislike meetings that may be complicated, involve a conflict or involve a dissapointment for me. Even when it is just about an Email contact. I'm scared of failing so I procrastinate... And I have no idea how to break that cycle. I can tell myself as often as I want that it will be okay, still I avoid it.

Procrastination

Anonymous wrote:
I'm a chronic procrastinator but I do so not because I fear adulthood. I just dislike meetings that may be complicated, involve a conflict or involve a dissapointment for me. Even when it is just about an Email contact. I'm scared of failing so I procrastinate... And I have no idea how to break that cycle. I can tell myself as often as I want that it will be okay, still I avoid it.

Just like anonymous said, I'm a chronic procrastinator, Or so I believe. There's many times where it's easy to get a task done although I would rather do something else. However, thos moment of focus rarely happens lately.

The most ironic thing I ever done was writing a paper about Self-Regulation and Academic Procrastination based on a research led by Caroline Senécal and Richard Koestner.

For my part, I think my procrastination occurs when ( I am a students in university now) i am unable to conceive and to understand what I will gain from my studies, Deici and Ryan called this type of procrastination «amotivated behavior». when I am to take action upon what I have to do, it is usually driven by guilt and done at the last minute: «it's called introjected regulation and taking action are, in this case, driven by guilt.»

I'd like to change this because, most often then not, it brings me a great deal of stress which often leads me in a «desperate» mood. It's a real burden which, so far, has bring me to think I can't be reliable and so and so...It's a vicious circle.

my limited personal

my limited personal experience suggests that, the guilt completely disappears after the graduation, possibly the only positive side-effect of the generally dark realization that hits one once the formal aspects of the university are done...:) meaning, in psychological terms, that the conditioning that is still happening at the highest level of our formal education, serves only to 'prepare' obedient, 'educated' mass for life!?
I believe that there are just moments when we are forced to believe things that have no real value, but are circumstantially relevant, that actually cause this 'mixing up' of understandings in our brains. It overlooks the most basic understanding that one should have about the level of separation between the mind and the body.

Chronic

I too will put off as much as possible anything that I don't feel like doing it. Not because I don't want to be an adult (whatever that means), but because our species—when not too busy destroying the only planet that will support it—has created such a drab, depressing, BS world. I'll write some more on that—later.

i feel you.. i guess it is

i feel you.. i guess it is also somewhat influenced by our own personal struggles, whatever they might be- that are completely unavoidable even to the most 'stone'-hearted people, our ego wants to change the world, so our ego disappoints ourselves because we, ourselves are aware of our limitation to change only ourselves and ourselves alone...

Procrastination

Three observations :

1 - The world of procrastination is not made only of common, ordinary tasks. The article seems to put it that way. Important and relevant things are also delayed and show biggest avoidance of such tasks. Refine procrastination to mundane tasks is to reduce the interpretation of this behavior. It can also happen for important tasks.

2 - And the rebellion that lurks behind the procrastination? We can not forget that fail leaving the tasks behind brings immediate gratification. And postpones the distress. This resistance to the displeasure of the task (irrespective of justification) seems a rebellious act. "No, I won't do it now!", says the spoiled child. It is an act of destructive denial of the task and the representations behind the idea that this task is something bigger than it is. That leads us to the next problem...

3 - What about perfectionism ? We must not forget the anguish that the need for accuracy and perfection causes. The need to feel no guilt at taking criticism by mistake or poor performance is paralyzing. We fail to do the task because it requires a lot of us (psychologically). And this can happen with a big project at work or when having to make the bed if the heavy representations are there, recalling our rebellion against this oppressive unconsious thoughts.

Great comment, Cezar! I

Great comment, Cezar! I totally agree with your insight!

I gonna read this later...

I gonna read this later...

Trying to break the cycle

I'm 33, i'm confortable with adulthood and its responsibilites. Though I'm still trying to find the reason for my procrastination. But even not knowing it, sometimes i can force myself to do whatever i have to do, be it important or not, big or small.

The struggle is finding out the key reason for it, so i can address it properly, because it's holding me back a great deal.

This helped me break the cycle.

Jean,

Try reading this. It helped me understand.

http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

Good luck

aaaaarrrrrggg!

I'm not afraid of adulthood but there might be some subconscious issues that are affecting me regarding adulthood.

I procrastinate really bad on some things and other things I always jump right on when it needs attention. My kitchen and laundry are always clean but I don't vacuum nearly as often as I should and I tend to let clutter build up in my living area. The clutter and unopened mail drives me crazy but I don't do anything about it.

Maybe I just need a good thwap on the head. Heh

Nail on the Head

I do these things and I don't know why.. Like I'm trying to be really responsible and I'm better at cleaning but I am really bad at opening my mail. Like its almost physically draining I have to make myself do it... I learned the word procrastination when I was 5 so its been a life long theme.. Idk maybe I just don't belong in a world full of paper work and deadlines...

Screw it...I will read the

Screw it...I will read the article later...

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