The morning is always wiser than the evening ~
Responding to a situation is always better than reacting to it. When we react to anything, it is usually with the first thought, word, or action that comes into our mind to retaliate with. If we are hurt, we often try to hurt back; if we are angry, we want to lash out in response; if we are left out, we want to reject those who left us out.
When things are said or done that hurt you, know that you do not have to respond immediately. You can sleep on most matters. When you wake up in the morning, you are likely to have a better perspective, be less emotional, and you may even have thought through what you’d like to say or how to handle the situation in a way that will be more productive than your first response may have been.
Trying to hurt someone, especially your (soon-to-be) ex-spouse, in retaliation for hurts he has caused you doesn’t work. It may feel good in the moment, but that good feeling won’t last long.
You are entitled to your feelings of anger but lashing out at your spouse or kids is not the answer. More often than not, reacting badly just perpetuates a negative dynamic and the result is that everyone suffers. Divorce is hard enough without adding more layers of pain into the mix.