In Contemplating Divorce, A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go, the reader who is struggling in their marriage will get a much clearer idea of whether the marriage is salvageable through the various exercises, stated information and case examples outlined throughout the book. Chapter Six, in particular, covers what are known as “workability factors” for marriage based on a variety of areas that come into play in every relationship such as trust, respect, communication, compatibility, and more.
The “Workability Quiz” was created from these factors and is a tool designed to help people assess in a general way how well their marriage operates. It represents a partial list of the various areas in which the marital relations either work or don’t work. This quiz is meant to be a preliminary assessment and should not be the sole basis for a decision whether to stay in the marriage or leave. It is important to read the entire book to have a more accurate sense of how workable the marriage actually is.
From the following scenarios, circle the letter of the answer that most closely resembles the way you and your spouse would interact in the same situation. Then enter the letters in the answer key to calculate your score. This score will tell you where your marriage falls on the workability scale.
1. Your spouse says s/he is going to be working late again. You:
a) believe her/him without question
b) don’t believe her/him
c) wonder if s/he’s telling the truth since s/he lied about working late at least once before
2. You have had a tough day and that evening, you start to tell your spouse about it. In response, your spouse:
a) turns up the volume on the television
b) turns the television off, sits you down and asks what happened
c) turns down the volume on the television and asks you about what happened.
3. When you and your spouse argue:
a) You both scream and shout at the same time trying to get the other person to hear the other
b) listen to each other and each have a chance to express your viewpoints
c) one or both of you becomes emotional at first but you eventually calm down to where you can converse
4. When an issue comes up between you and your spouse, you resolve it by:
a) one of you automatically defers to the other for the solution
b) you have an unspoken agreement that you won’t talk about the issue and you’ll both hope it goes away
c) you work on finding a resolution together
5. Your spouse suggests that you go on vacation together for two weeks. You:
a) get excited at the thought of spending two whole weeks with your spouse on your ideal vacation b) get a knot in the pit of your stomach thinking about how you’ll have to suffer through his or her idea of a “vacation”
c) say yes but mean no because you don’t want to be away from the kids or work that long
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