When childfree women talk to their friends who are moms about the differences in their lives, it can be a touchy subject. The conversation can unfortunately lead to defensiveness on both sides. In a perfect world, it would be easy to share with one another openly. Here are a few things that many childfree women would say.
1. “My life truly doesn’t revolve around selfish indulgences such as shopping, vacations, and happy hour. I come home, just like you, and do chores, pay bills, and prepare meals. The main difference between us is that I have a lot more time to get these tasks done, and I don’t have to choose between sleep and keeping up with the to do list. I do, however, understand that raising a child can easily take up to eight hours a day, so if you complain of being exhausted or behind in getting stuff done, I won’t criticize you.”
2. “I don’t dislike children or families, although it’s true that the chaos of family life is something I’m not used to. Remember that my relationship is with you, and I appreciate it when you leave your child at home so that we can spend time alone together. And if I change the subject away from your child, please don’t take it personally. It is wonderful, though, to hear some about your child and to watch you doing such a great job in your role as a mom.”