I met a woman at a party recently and we went through the usual talk of asking about each other’s lives. When the topic of children came up, she asked if I was a mom. I told her that I’m not, and it was a refreshing change to hear her say that, even though she’s a mom herself, she thinks that me not having kids is a great thing. She imagined that without children I must have much more time and energy to focus on my career, and she was absolutely right.
In my book, Complete Without Kids: An Insider's Guide to Childfree Living by Choice or by Chance, I tell the story of how I stumbled into childfree adulthood by happenstance. I was simply too busy with other things and my partner wasn’t inclined to plan for having children. Then one day I realized that time had made the decision for me. And now that I’m here, I feel grateful for the life I have. Below are a few things that I, and other folks without kids, are able to enjoy.
1. Free time
I watch people around me, both clients and friends, and see them dashing from task to task, from activity to activity, with limited ability to just enjoy the moment. Although I work fulltime, I don’t hire help for any household tasks and do most of the cooking for my husband and me. I still have time for a daily walk or run, leisure reading, time with friends, and I go to bed early every night. I don’t feel like I don’t have the experience described by so many Americans of frantically juggling too many things and feeling exhausted and stressed to the max.