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Is Social Media to Blame For the Rise In Narcissism?

Over the last couple years, a plethora of research has been pouring in that makes connections between Facebook and narcissism. Social media websites encourage self-promotion, as users utilize Facebook and other platforms "gain attention" and "look important." Read More

Perception or Reality

Facebook and social media forces people to present themselves from a narcissistic point of view. People talk on FB about what they did, what the bought, what they ate, not necessarily their feelings which are more private. Consequently young people have learned to showcase themselves like this, because they spend 24 hours a day taking pictures of their life and talking about their own experiences that involve a lot of materialism.

Adults see this new attitude and perceive this to be narcissism. Nobody goes on FB and talks about the dollar they gave the homeless guy, but that doesn't mean they didn't try to help.

I agree that personality is

I agree that personality is determined largely by age 7, and I appreciate that you made that important connection regarding the social network at home being so vital. Also, it can't be overemphasized that empty praise and LACK of real connection with the parent is the problem. Strong empathyand connection by the caregivers are actually protective against personality disorders. I think it important to be careful using words like "coddling" for this reason, as they are unclear and can actually give the wrong idea to parents that they need to be unnecessarily harsh and detached, as those things actually cause narcissism according to most theorists.

I strongly disagree on one issue. Your link on emotional hunger reminded me that your views on attachment parenting are always reminiscent of someone who is describing another culture based on prejudicial views, rather than facts. Parents who choose to respond promptly and consistently to their children's emotional needs are doing so because they know the profound psychological and now neuropsychological benefits for their children of a caring, responsive, nurturing attachment with a primary caregiver. Any other characterization is simply a harmful over generalization and mischaracterization. I encourage you to read some of Allan Schore's or Darcia Narvaez's work. You are right that parents must care for their own needs and be fulfilled, but that does not have to be at the expense of the connection with the child.

Parents are afraid to say NO.

Narcissism amongst adults has always been there, Facebook and Twitter just gave everyone a stage. Facebook reminds me of grade schools’ “Show and Tell”. It’s the adult affirmation of relevance. As far as children? It’s the parent’s inability to say, “No” and not keeping the consistency of discipline. It makes me sick witnessing an adult caving in to a child’s demands. All this leads up to the world we live in.

I just wonder what this will evolve into.

Social Media

Social media is trending today, almost all of the people,both children and adults around the world are hooked to it. There are hundreds of social networking sites that exist today, and some says that it is the best and fastest way to communicate. Also the common activities on these sites are sharing and posting some personal info and uploading pictures and videos. Being extra careful on using social media accounts can be a great help. Thanks for the post!

Social Media

Social media is trending today, almost all of the people,both children and adults around the world are hooked to it. There are hundreds of social networking sites that exist today, and some says that it is the best and fastest way to communicate. Also the common activities on these sites are sharing and posting some personal info and uploading pictures and videos. Being extra careful on using social media accounts can be a great help. Thanks for the post!

It’s very sad that everyone

It’s very sad that everyone has to follow Zuckerberg's traits. He is a true narcissist and promoting Facebook is only instilling narcissism in people. He is so narcissistic he wants power and control. He enjoys controlling people by having them sign up on Facebook. I am sure all the popularity of his site elates him whenever someone signs up. He has another individual under control. Zuckerberg is insecure and feels secure by controlling others minds. Do people not have anything better to do than use Facebook? Get a hobby or help someone in need. I think it is very odd that people do not want to help one another anymore. People who wish to turn their backs on others may need help someday and they will not get it because they are tired of narcissists. Narcissists are true manipulators. Get what they want from you and then throw you away. Zuckerberg is doing that and someday it will turn on him. Zuckerberg has loads of friends. Yes, friend in the whole entire world and that makes him think he is bigger and better than anyone is. He must have been deprived as a child. Mommy and daddy didn’t give him enough attention.
Talk about Facebook damage. I know of someone who sits on Facebook all day and thinks she has loads of friends. Yet, no one visits her or telephones her. I stopped into see her for a long weekend and her phone hardly rang at all. She stuffs her face all day with junk (1 gallon of ice cream, cake, potato chips, etc) which is all in one day and she weighs 300 lbs and is about 5’ tall. She is 52-years old and still has mommy bail her out financially. Her husband doesn’t work either, so mommy-in-law supports him too. Then this couple has their 13-year old child sell his belonging to give them money to buy Christmas gifts for extended family. Then on top of that they live on social security and workmen’s comp. Spends more and calls mommy again for more money. Mommy bought them a $20,000.00 car too. Mommy borrows them not hundreds, but thousands per month. She just sits happily on Facebook as if nothing is wrong. She thinks life is all fun and games. She gets on Facebook from the time she gets up in the morning until it is time to go to bed. Oh, she throws in a shower every once in awhile and has to stop off in her kitchen to get her junk and sits back down to Facebook again. Now we know why there is so much obesity in the world. That is true story of Facebook damage. Not just mental damage, but physical damage. Granted it isn’t all Facebooks fault, but it sure doesn’t help people.

Happy and safe holidays everyone!

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Lisa Firestone, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, author, and the Director of Research and Education for the Glendon Association.

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