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What could ever be wrong with pursuing happiness to the fullest extent possible? Read More
Some goals are not to be pursued...
and happiness is one of them. If pursued, it becomes a chore that automatically decreases the impact of the outcome - the harder we work at something the bigger the outcome has to be to make up for the energy invested. Additionally, the work itself to achieving this goal gives a sense that happiness is hard to attain and so may give birth to thoughts that it must be hard to achieve happiness in the end, and so I'm unhappy...ultimately, happiness might just be one of the goals that we have to let pursue us, by becoming open to experience happiness.
The studies described seem flawed at least at first glance: in the first study, it is possible that the women that valued happiness were the ones that were unhappy. So it is possible that these women were less happy, but not because they were chasing happiness, but because they are fundamentally less happy. It's possible that it is not the chasing after happiness that makes us unhappy, but that being unhappy makes happiness that much more important.
In the second study, by having people read about happiness they make the issue palpable. However again, the issue may be more relevant to people that are unhappy, and the article just brings it into the foreground.
Happiness is a Choice
These are interesting studies. I think one of the biggest reasons for this discrepancy is that people look externally for stimulants to make them happy, weather that is people or things. However, happiness is all about the choices you make, not only where you work and whom you hang out with and where you live, but also choosing how to react to any given circumstance during the day. Regardless of what stage of live you are in, I’ve discovered the fastest way to be happy is to look around you and start noticing the wonderful things in life that are right in front of you. I explain more about what I mean in my blog http://www.capturinghappiness.com/changing-lanes/
happiness ideas and love
i think happiness comes from love and ideas. It is a great philosophy..
http://tenmillionslaves.blogspot.com/2010/09/on-happinessideas-love-scho...
Happiness is a mind state , its a lifestyle.
Yes, you are right.....and
Yes, you are right.....and its also about really having a good sense of humour and laughing at yourself and some of the crazy stuff that gets thrown at you in life .....I love to make people laugh and I love to laugh whenever I get the chance.
i found another great link on
i found another great link on the similar site about how we should live life and be happy that was really nice to read. A breath of fresh air as you will . if you get a chance check out
THIS IS NOT LIFE :
http://tenmillionslaves.blogspot.com/2009/08/this-is-not-life.html
I really think the system is sucking us dry of our happiness, taking our juices so to speak. its time we stopped turning to short term answers to everything, and took the long way to more meaningful life.
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