THIS...IS...the first annual “Resolutions Solutions Project!”
For the first 7 days of 2013, I hunted down concise, pithy blogs that gave specific tips on how to make and keep your New Year’s resolutions, advertising them one by one on Facebook and Twitter from Jan.1-7. I included a few blogs of my own and a few more of others. My hope was that anyone making a resolution for 2013, or any time of year for that matter, would find strength in these ideas.
For those who missed my campaign, I’m revealing and re-organizing these tips in this blog, adding a few more to beef up your "resolutions solutions." Since the third week of January can be a dangerous time for resolvers, these tips may help you recover from a slip as well as get started with your goal.
Day 1: Decide WHETHER to make a resolution at all.
Of 2 minds about making a resolution?
Although people who make New Year's resolutions have a surprisingly high success rate, most resolutions do fail. Why? Fellow PT blogger Toni Bernhard gives the best, most succinct answer I have ever read here.
Free yourself from the idea that you must make a New Year’s resolution! If you’re looking for a meaningful option, you cannot do better than to read Kelly McGonigal’s blog, “5 Things You Can Do Instead of New Year’s Resolutions.”
Day 2: Decide WHAT resolution you really want to make.
Luc Reid’s article on goal-choosing tells you how to sort through all your possible goals, come up with the goal that matters most to you right now, and be at peace with those goals that you must set aside for a while.
While you think about what resolution to make, consider this piece of wisdom from Lucy Hone, in the Positive Psychology News Daily: “Instead of giving things up for New Year’s resolutions, commit to doing more of what you love!”
Day 3: Decide WHY you want to change by choosing a motivator.
What is important to you right now? Family? Health? Career success? Find your motivator for change here.
Day 4: Make your desired change specific.
Once you've homed in on your motivator(s), do this one simple thing to unlock the door to change.
Day 5: Decide HOW you will achieve your resolution goal.
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” Author Antoine de Saint-Exupery said that. So what kind of plan can you concoct that will give you the “driving directions” to your destination?
If you decide to use willpower, increase it by using the technique of “The Pause.” This short blog by Leo Babauta explains how "the pause" can lift your awareness and help you resist cravings. Praise the pause!
Day 6: Back up your willpower with changepower.
If you find that willpower is not enough—and it is NOT enough for most people, try these “changepower” approaches. Changepower will back up your willpower with helpful people, places, and things.
For example, blogger Tim Pychyl suggests an approach to fortify your commitment here. And my blog on changepower will help you find support for your change.
This quote by Tony Robbins summarizes the HOW of change: “Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.”
Day 7: Read this one-page summary of successful change.
Finally, this one-page "book" of quotes will give you a dash of inspiration as you work toward your goal and reassure you that successful change takes place, not in a snap of the fingers, but in stages and over time.
Are there other short articles or blogs that you’ve found to be particularly helpful or inspiring? Share them with us in Comments.
© Meg Selig
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