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Do you know how the Teletubbies go to the bathroom?

This is so laughably

This is so laughably ridiculous.

Your whole premise is based fictional people.

Really, how many of those "alpha women" are there? Ans: not many.

As for the enduring myth of alpha and beta males: Every man is an alpha in his element and a beta out of his element.

There are plenty of super macho, bad boys that are unemployed losers and then there are many so called beta males running the show and pulling in the bucks... who the real alphas?

I'm what you would call a beta -- (However, I am a degreed professional and I make very good money) I am a good father and faithful attentive husband.

But, I would never stand for what you describe as an alpha woman -- I hate pushy aggressive people and I'd kick her to the curb.

Whats more, if she worked for me, she'd better show some accomplishment for all of her super woman baloney or she'd be out on the street.

I have worked for women and I have a great deal of respect for them and I consider a couple of them as friends. They are respectful, non-pushy and a joy to work with. However, I would never stand working for the type you describe.

Get your stereotypes right.



THIS is why I quit dating

Psychobabble like this.
I'm a person. Not Alpha or Beta.

I expected this to be ironical.

I wanted to write an ironical comment to this article, saying how funny is to me the use of the very same epithets I use to describe my dog in relationship to the other dogs that dig in the garbage on my neighbourhood, while describing types of personality in a so-called pshycology magazine.
But as I don't own a dog I will have to be straight and express my opinion directly.
Your "alpha / beta" classification types is worthy of a good dystopical fictional narrative (yes, I'm talking about Brave new world), where the authors have, at least, the insight of critisize this straightforward way of thinking. And YES, the use of Alpha or beta lenguage IS a way of depicting "good or bad" wich would have to be evident at your eyes, and it express the result of a behaviour (the success or the lack of success) and not the behaviour itself. It's not a psychological definition as to be "dead or alive" is not a medical diagnosis.
I think this way of framing traits of personality is pure ideology that only makes sense in a deterministic pseudo-aristocratical capitalistic frame, and I mean "aristocracy" in an ironical and greek sens.
I would expect more of this magazine than the publishing of articles based on stereotypes worthy of poor self esteem workshops whose targeted for sociopaths.

so true

I'm glad that other people get it. Alpha and Betta are not real labels for human beings. I am so sick of this meme. Peoples behavior, their degrees of agresion, domincance or submission, pushyness or receptivity, change from one situation to another, from one mood to another, and absolutly, over time, with younger folks tending to be more pushy and agressive.The guy who is dominant in the boardroom may be submisive in the bedroom, and vice versa. Furthermore, the guy who is dominant in the boardroom would be dogmeat on a ghetto corner, while the gheto gangsta leader would not evan be permmited into the citidels of corperate power. See, it's situational.
And, evan among the pack animals to whom these labels justifiably apply, they are not inate. The alpha has to constantly defend his position, Eventually, he gets to old to do it, and slips into betta status, if he lives that long.
This ain't physchology, and it sure isn't science.

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