Buddy System

Are friendships with opposite sex friends within couple friendships possible? Read More

Every so often I get an email that is important to share with other readers about how men construct friendships across the life span. This came in from Sande who gave me permission to use it. I have removed the full name of her father's friend and another buddy that is referenced. It is sweet and speaks for itself. Read More

How couples make and maintain those difficult relationships with other couples Read More

Can a close relationship between a guy's friend and his wife be linked to ED? Read More

I recently began runnning a group for fathers in a local penitentiary.  The purpose is to help them become better dads to their children.  Some men have children by different women.  Others have children only with their wife.  Some men may see their children during visitation and then only through a plastic wall.  Others only have telephone or letter contact. Read More

When men were interviewed about their male friendships for Buddy System, they were also asked about their fathers and what messages they had received from them.  Whether conveyed intentionally or unintentionally, the messages that the men received from their fathers about the value of friendships and how friends should be treated are varied. Read More

I have been studying the impact of parental child abduction for the last 20 years and have published extensively on the topic.  Recent events and articles have placed it again in the news. Read More

If Aristotle is correct, men's friendships will be forged forever by the shared experience of the Chilean miners.  According to Aristotle, to be good friends with someone you have to "share salt," i.e., have a common difficult experience.  More modern social social scientists would certainly concur.  Commonality can breed closeness.  Sixty-eight days in the mine will do that Read More

A woman emailed me this week with a question: Should she be concerned about her boyfriend having no friends? In high school he only had female friends.  He is now in his 30s. She had read that a woman should never get involved with a guy who had no male friends. Read More

Coaches set the team culture and it should be a culture that does not accept demeaning remarks about others.  Read More

 Men friends can tease each other, like Martin and Baldwin did last night. Read More

 Can a 1972 rock band still be friends when they reunite to play a gig? Read More

Old rock and roll bandmates can still be friends. Read More

I am constantly asked, "How are men's friendships different from women's?" Read More