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Tiger Uses STERBs—Do You?
What, you don't know what a STERB is?
Shame on you! That means you haven't read The Grief Recovery Handbook or When Children Grieve.
I suppose you're asking, "What the heck is a STERB?"
Glad you asked.
A STERB is a Short Term Energy Relieving Behavior. Read More
Good STERBs
I admit this is the first I have heard of STERBs. But I can think of some cases in which they can be good. For instance, when something upsetting happens, there is an automatic fight or flight response. But if I take a run, I work out that autonomic response, literally by taking flight. When I return home again I feel much calmer, able to return to the issue at hand in a less distressing, more rational, less reactive manner. And I'm in better shape.
Good Point
Good point, but slightly different idea.
I don’t think your run around the block is actually a STERB, it’s actually a way of not doing a STERB, since when you are, "able to return to the issue at hand," you are dealing with the event directly and with the other person.
A STERB is something you do that creates the illusion that you’ve dealt with the emotions created by an event or interaction.
On the other hand, if you run around the block or even run a full marathon, but don’t address the issue of the upsetting thing that happened, then the running would be a STERB and your emotions about the event will get buried. When that happens, the buried matter become like little time bombs or land mines that can explode later and cause great damage.
Regards,
Russell
I've wondered if Tiger is
I've wondered if Tiger is depressed or suffering from inferiority complex and acting it out via these affairs. His father died in 2006 and he was very close to him. He also grew up with much prejudice and discrimination which I think drives his obsession to be the best-ever golfer.
wondering
Hi Anon,
Conjectures are flying around like confetti as to what the underlying causes of Tiger's behavior.
Not difficult to buy into any theory put forth.
By the same token, not easy to buy any of them.
Bottom line – Only Tiger knows the truth, but whether he’s ever willing or able to come clean, is anyone’s guess.
Russell
Maybe. But I don't think
Maybe. But I don't think Tiger will know the truth without professional counseling (individual, not just marriage counseling). I don't think he has the strength of character - or real friends or family support - to help him realize he needs it. He's actually a very weak-minded person or he wouldn't be in this situation right now.
He was put on a pedestal by his father almost as soon as he could walk and I think he's only felt love through his golfing achievements, not the unconditional type of love he seeks. All of his relationships have had strings attached because of his early success and potential with his golf. Add to that the racially motivated bullying he got as a kid (beat-up, duct taped to trees, discrimination at golf facilities, etc.) and it seems to be further evidence that there's something deeply disturbed within him.
As we've come to find out, these flings have been going on for quite some time prior to his father's death so it's unlikely it's been brought on by depression. He's a seriously sick person who can't see reality and excusing it because of his fame and fortune is doing the mentally ill in the world a disservice, especially him.
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