Broken Hearts

Exploring myths and truths about grief, loss, and recovery.

by Russell Friedman

Legacy of Love, or Monument to Misery

By Russell Friedman on September 14, 2009 in Broken Hearts

When long term relationships end due to the death of one of the partners, there's an inevitable adjustment to the new reality of life without that person who has always been there. Adaptation to the radical changes in life of a surviving spouse is arguably one of life's most difficult transitions. Read More

Russell: Another great post

Submitted by Brett Feinstein on September 15, 2009 - 6:50am.

Russell:

Another great post with a lot of great points. You are doing fantastic work and the more people who hear and read your words, the more people who will finally be able to become complete with relationships like these.

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Spreading the word.

Submitted by Russell Friedman on September 15, 2009 - 11:57am.

Thanks Brett - appreciate your support. RF

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I have found this to be that

Submitted by Anonymous on September 15, 2009 - 9:45am.

I have found this to be that people become attached to their pain and that helps them stay stuck in the grief. I have also found that people then buy into identifying themselves as a "widow" or "abandoned child" and can get stuck in this identification of a new role.

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Great Points Mr/MS Anon

Submitted by Russell Friedman on September 15, 2009 - 12:01pm.

The labeling of grievers is one of the tangential tragedies that compounds the problem.

Thanks for your input - I do believe I will begin a post on the topic of labeling as antagonistic to recovery.

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Russell Friedman is Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute, and co-author of The Grief Recovery Handbook, When Children Grieve, and Moving On.

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