I’m lucky to walk away with anything at all.
I’ll celebrate my toddler’s birthday early so as to attend a dinner on her actual birth date.
When she’s an adult, she’ll understand.
Such semiconscious dialogues are the lingua franca of adult decision making, right down to the specious rationale (every questionable choice I’ve made and then endlessly justified in order to let go of the road not taken).
Trade-offs are evolution’s building blocks—all organisms arise from a series of cellular negotiations, and our brains are no exception.
Human personality is subject to balancing selection, meaning that you find hawks and doves, philanderers and monks in any population. Within an individual, personality reflects more subtle trade-offs. In “When Virtue Becomes Vice,” PT examines how traits and behaviors that are culturally valorized—the pursuit of excellence, the quest for justice—can misfire with just the slightest shift in temperament or circumstance.