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Missed Connections

Seen but not spoken to: An atlas of where we’re (almost) finding love.

Turns out Cupid has no boundaries—and he visits WalMart more frequently than you thought. So reveals Dorothy Gambrell's "Missed Connections" map, which appears in the February issue of Psychology Today.

The map, which breaks down, state-by-state, the most common hotspots for Missed Connections posted on Craigslist, has been making a stir on the web over the past couple of days. Denizens of states across country came away with their own interpretations, questions and repudiations. Some of the most common reactions:

Oklahomans crushing on Oklahomans at the state fair? Adorable!

WalMart, a leading love incubator in 15 states? How sad!

Indianans missing connections at home? Hm...

New Yorkers, Atlantans and Northwesterners commiserated about nearly meeting someone in transit.

Californians patted themselves on the backs for working out all the time.

And Andrew Sullivan summarized a common sentiment, calling it the "saddest map in America."

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Here are the highlights:

Washington

The Pacific Northwest breeds girls bold. This state had the highest percentage of ads from women seeking men (25) and women seeking women (5).

Idaho

Home of the heterosexual male. The percentage of ads from men for women (76) and from men for men (7) were, respectively, the highest and lowest in the nation.

Hawaii 

You’re not in Idaho anymore. The Aloha State had the country’s highest percentage of total ads from men seeking men (46).

*Map depicts the most frequently-cited location where a Missed Connection occurred, by region. All data are based on each state’s 100 most recent Missed Connections posted on Craigslist at the time of data collection. 

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