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Comments on "New Year's Resolution: Get Happy"

New Year's Resolution: Get Happy

While reporting on happiness for the January cover story, I surveyed some of PT's bloggers (and a few favorite past interviewees) to get their very best happiness advice. Read More

I Concur!

Hey Carlin,

Great blog! I have to agree with Sam. For some people the pursuit of happiness becomes almost like another competition, achievement - or 'thing' they must possess.

"Okay, I have the degree, career, family, house, car. Next on the list is happiness."

Happiness is not something to be pursued, but rather allowed. If people put their egos aside and allowed their lives to become a series of experiences, and special moments, they would find the happiness residing within them. It is impossible to notice a moment when in pursuit of something.

Parents need to expose their children to wonderful, yet simple experiences, rather than push them to be the best - compared to someone else.

While I agree simple

While I agree simple experiences can bring about happiness, is that happiness really permanent and not just an emotion at that point in time?

While I am all for the sentimental the reality is that for many people they have a criteria or goals which make them happy. Sure you can be carefree and experiences joy but when you're broke, homeless, alone etc as a result of it where's the happiness? I'm by no means saying money can buy happiness but rather it is a consequence of our present day society that we need things to feel at ease. Not worrying about how to pay our next month's bills are a form of happiness in my opinion. Unfortunately we can't just experience things and feel upbeat because it's very difficult to be an idealist in today's pragmatic world. I would love if this were untrue and that we could be happy based on just living, but that's not how it is.

Enjoying life comes at a price sadly because no matter how happy you are just smelling the roses, the government won't take feelings as a form of income tax payment, that employer won't hire you because you're always smiling yet unqualified for the position. I hate to be the rain to anyone's proverbial parade but the results of western society's years of development has made happiness something that has to be sought out, not merely experienced.

Don't worry, be happy

A great post!
I agree that happiness comes from within ourselves, and another person cannot be responsible for making us happy.
The Dalai Lama is an amazing human being and should be an inspiration to us all!

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