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The Art (and Science) of Resilience.

Relationships
How to Heal From Toxic Relationships

Karen Salmansohn on July 25, 2014

Warning: This is not your typical therapist advice. However, this is life-changing, wake-up call advice. Click to read now if you want tools to finally break toxic ties to people!

Warning: This is not your typical therapist advice. However, this is life-changing, wake-up call advice. Click to read now if you want tools to finally break toxic ties to people!

Career
Why Affirmations Aren't Always Effective, Here's a Solution

Karen Salmansohn on May 6, 2014

Often when you’re in a highly negative state, repeating peppy affirmations to improve your mood and confidence just doesn't work because they simply feel like fluffy, hyperbolic, one-size-fits-all false hype. The solution? Read on.

Often when you’re in a highly negative state, repeating peppy affirmations to improve your mood and confidence just doesn't work because they simply feel like fluffy, hyperbolic, one-size-fits-all false hype. The solution? Read on.

Karen Salmansohn
Relationships
Communication Tools To Help Kids Talk About Their Feelings

Karen Salmansohn on October 1, 2013

It’s incredibly important to raise kids to feel safe to express their feelings – at the speed of life. Not just to protect our closeness as parents and children – but to ensure our children enjoy the most loving and lasting friendships and relationships throughout their lives.

It’s incredibly important to raise kids to feel safe to express their feelings – at the speed of life. Not just to protect our closeness as parents and children – but to ensure our children enjoy the most loving and lasting friendships and relationships throughout their lives.

Empathy
A Tough Father’s Day Subject—Which Needs to Be Talked About

Karen Salmansohn on June 14, 2013

24 million children live in biological father-absent homes—in the U.S. alone. And 1 in 3 children grow up without a father. Although a majority of these fatherless homes are lower income situations, that’s not always the case. This problem crosses the economic spectrum –with men leaving because they’re having an affair, or to seek ego-driven, empathy-lacking freedom.

24 million children live in biological father-absent homes—in the U.S. alone. And 1 in 3 children grow up without a father. Although a majority of these fatherless homes are lower income situations, that’s not always the case. This problem crosses the economic spectrum –with men leaving because they’re having an affair, or to seek ego-driven, empathy-lacking freedom.

Resilience
What to Tell Kids After Failures and Mistakes

Karen Salmansohn on November 12, 2012

Do you compliment your kids by saying things like: “You are gifted at being smart." "You’re a natural at ‘this’!” Although these compliments sound like good things to tell kids, they can bring about potential problems in the long run. Dr. Dweck suggests parents and teachers implement “Incremental Theory For Learning” instead.

Do you compliment your kids by saying things like: “You are gifted at being smart." "You’re a natural at ‘this’!” Although these compliments sound like good things to tell kids, they can bring about potential problems in the long run. Dr. Dweck suggests parents and teachers implement “Incremental Theory For Learning” instead.

Dreaming
Whoever Has the Most Energy Wins

Karen Salmansohn on October 26, 2012

If you feel exhausted, worn out, or frazzled, it won’t matter how brilliant, talented, funny, or loving you are! After all, you’ll be too tired to be these things. You need to have energy to be at your sparkling best. Are you doing too many of these 6 energy leaking things? Are you doing enough of these 6 energy-boosting things?

If you feel exhausted, worn out, or frazzled, it won’t matter how brilliant, talented, funny, or loving you are! After all, you’ll be too tired to be these things. You need to have energy to be at your sparkling best. Are you doing too many of these 6 energy leaking things? Are you doing enough of these 6 energy-boosting things?

Stress
15 Tools for an "Instant Happy"

Karen Salmansohn on September 22, 2012

We live in a busy, coffee-chugging, time-challenged world. We don't have time to be stressed or depressed. If we do find ourselves feeling this way, here are 15 quickie attitude makeovers to get us back on track.

We live in a busy, coffee-chugging, time-challenged world. We don't have time to be stressed or depressed. If we do find ourselves feeling this way, here are 15 quickie attitude makeovers to get us back on track.

Career
Can Posters Work As Pattern Interrupts In Changing Moods?

Karen Salmansohn on July 17, 2012

Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram are becoming aggregates for happiness-boosting inspirational posters. Is this merely a trend for the self help world — or a psychological tool which is here to stay?

Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram are becoming aggregates for happiness-boosting inspirational posters. Is this merely a trend for the self help world — or a psychological tool which is here to stay?

Relationships
Are You A Closet Female Chauvenist About Men?

Karen Salmansohn on June 21, 2012

Are you a closet female chauvenist about men? It's time to examine your limiting beliefs about men and love - because what you believe is what you get.

Are you a closet female chauvenist about men? It's time to examine your limiting beliefs about men and love - because what you believe is what you get.

Forgiveness
How To Recover From A Prince Harming

Karen Salmansohn on January 16, 2012

After a break up, you may become convinced that the best way to protect your breaking heart is to put the brakes on your heart - refusing to let love in. But it's important not to allow yourself to stay stuck in negative emotions too long. Here are some tips to forgive (both your partner/yourself) and forget (the pain but not the insights!).

After a break up, you may become convinced that the best way to protect your breaking heart is to put the brakes on your heart - refusing to let love in. But it's important not to allow yourself to stay stuck in negative emotions too long. Here are some tips to forgive (both your partner/yourself) and forget (the pain but not the insights!).

Happiness
Do Nice Guys Finish Happiest?

Karen Salmansohn on July 9, 2011

According to both ancient philosophers like Aristotle and modern day positive psychology professors like Martin Seligman, some of our biggest feelings of happiness come from using personal strengths to be of kindly, altruistic service.

According to both ancient philosophers like Aristotle and modern day positive psychology professors like Martin Seligman, some of our biggest feelings of happiness come from using personal strengths to be of kindly, altruistic service.

Happiness
The No. 1 Contributor to Happiness

Karen Salmansohn on June 30, 2011

Is an out-of-control life challenge making you feel "out of control" over your entire life?

Is an out-of-control life challenge making you feel "out of control" over your entire life?

Happiness
Think Like A Lion Tamer About The Hurt In Your Life

Karen Salmansohn on June 26, 2011

Have you recently been through a challenge, disappointment, break up or disloyalty with somebody? If so, it’s important after you’ve been hurt, to take some time to think like a lion tamer about your pain, so you can tame the possibility of more negativity coming back to bite you again!

Have you recently been through a challenge, disappointment, break up or disloyalty with somebody? If so, it’s important after you’ve been hurt, to take some time to think like a lion tamer about your pain, so you can tame the possibility of more negativity coming back to bite you again!

Mating
Should You Break Up Or Make Up?

Karen Salmansohn on June 13, 2011

Remember: You are the common denominator in all your relationship problems. Here are 8 empowering insights to help you decide if you should break up or make up!

Remember: You are the common denominator in all your relationship problems. Here are 8 empowering insights to help you decide if you should break up or make up!

Anger
Don't Get Even, Get Even Better

Karen Salmansohn on April 4, 2011

Ten tips to make sure you turn breakups into needed breakthroughs, endings into better beginnings—and stop focusing on getting even, and instead focus on getting even better!

Ten tips to make sure you turn breakups into needed breakthroughs, endings into better beginnings—and stop focusing on getting even, and instead focus on getting even better!

Stress
Worried? Stressed? View Your Life With A "Bifocal Lens"

Karen Salmansohn on March 15, 2011

Sometimes becoming happier is simply a matter of switching your lens from short-term to long-term - or vice versa. Once you learn how to view your life with a bifocal lens, you'll feel less stressed and more confident.

Sometimes becoming happier is simply a matter of switching your lens from short-term to long-term - or vice versa. Once you learn how to view your life with a bifocal lens, you'll feel less stressed and more confident.