Verified by Psychology Today

Blamestorming

Why Conversations Go Wrong and How to Fix Them

Happiness
5 Ways to Feel Happier in Tough Times

Rob Kendall on January 5, 2021

Does happiness always seem slightly out of reach? Small changes each day can accumulate over time to deepen our experience of joy and happiness.

Does happiness always seem slightly out of reach? Small changes each day can accumulate over time to deepen our experience of joy and happiness.

Anger
How to Deal With Feelings of Anger and Anxiety

Rob Kendall on June 21, 2019

We're led to believe that we should control our feelings. But the more we attempt this strategy, the more our feelings control us. Thankfully, there's a better way.

We're led to believe that we should control our feelings. But the more we attempt this strategy, the more our feelings control us. Thankfully, there's a better way.

Stress
What You Can Do to Combat Stress

Rob Kendall on March 22, 2018

Stress has been called the health epidemic of the 21st century. So what can we do to regain control?

Stress has been called the health epidemic of the 21st century. So what can we do to regain control?

Fear
How to Manage Your Emotions

Rob Kendall on August 14, 2017

In the heat of the moment, our emotions can get the better of us. This raises a serious question: Am I in charge of my emotions, or are they in charge of me?

In the heat of the moment, our emotions can get the better of us. This raises a serious question: Am I in charge of my emotions, or are they in charge of me?

Attention
5 Ways Men and Women Talk Differently

Rob Kendall on December 15, 2016

The next time you're sitting in a boring meeting, look out for these characteristics of men-talk and women-talk.

The next time you're sitting in a boring meeting, look out for these characteristics of men-talk and women-talk.

Career
How to Stop Wasting Your Time in Meetings

Rob Kendall on May 27, 2016

Over a third of meetings are considered to be a waste of time. Some simple changes can halve the time you spend in meetings and double their value.

Over a third of meetings are considered to be a waste of time. Some simple changes can halve the time you spend in meetings and double their value.

Career
How Well Do You Know What Motivates You?

Rob Kendall on November 18, 2015

When asked what motivates them, many people are surprisingly vague. And yet deeply understanding your own motivations helps you create the life you want. And when you discover what motivates other people, you can help them fly.

When asked what motivates them, many people are surprisingly vague. And yet deeply understanding your own motivations helps you create the life you want. And when you discover what motivates other people, you can help them fly.

Wisdom
Why People May Not Want Your Advice

Rob Kendall on June 14, 2015

Many of us are addicted to offering our solutions and pearls of wisdom at the slightest opportunity. So often our advice is well intended but unwelcome. Over time this can cause our friends, family and colleagues to stop communicating with us.

Many of us are addicted to offering our solutions and pearls of wisdom at the slightest opportunity. So often our advice is well intended but unwelcome. Over time this can cause our friends, family and colleagues to stop communicating with us.

Laughter
Why We Laugh, and Why We Need To

Rob Kendall on March 26, 2015

How does laughter work? Who laughs more when telling a joke - the speaker or the listener? Are there different types of laughter? And do we laugh randomly or not?

How does laughter work? Who laughs more when telling a joke - the speaker or the listener? Are there different types of laughter? And do we laugh randomly or not?

Relationships
How to Stop Having Disagreements That Ruin Your Day

Rob Kendall on January 18, 2015

Why do we shout at someone we love even though we know it will make things worse? Or trample on people's sentences in a work meeting when we set out to listen? The answer lies in having mindful rather than mindless conversations.

Why do we shout at someone we love even though we know it will make things worse? Or trample on people's sentences in a work meeting when we set out to listen? The answer lies in having mindful rather than mindless conversations.

Divorce
How Trivial Conversations Become Bust-Ups

Rob Kendall on December 3, 2014

Research shows that most arguments begin with low-grade niggles about leaving sock-fluff on the carpet, unwashed plates next to the sink or flicking TV channels. These situations can quickly escalate into a full-scale row, in which underlying issues get brought into the conversation and both parties end up in The Bad Place.

Research shows that most arguments begin with low-grade niggles about leaving sock-fluff on the carpet, unwashed plates next to the sink or flicking TV channels. These situations can quickly escalate into a full-scale row, in which underlying issues get brought into the conversation and both parties end up in The Bad Place.