Welcome! We are creating this blog as a forum for women in their mid-thirties and older who are interested in becoming a mother. Whether you are single or married, gay or straight, trying to conceive now, have a young child, or would like to have a baby but know that it may not be for a few years, this blog will educate and inspire you. This blog evolved from a book that we are writing about this subject. Our goal is to clarify statistics, share women’s experiences, to offer practical coping advice to manage stress, and to discuss “Pregtiquette.” Pregtiquette is a term we coined to help navigate some of the sticky situations that can arise when you are trying to get pregnant.
More and more women are finding themselves in this situation. If you’re American and age 35-45, when you were born, only about 1 in 100 mothers had their first child at age 35 or older. Now about 1 in 12 first-time mothers are 35 or older. There are also interesting regional and racial variations in these trends, and we will explore that in later posts.
Even though it’s becoming more common, waiting to conceive until after age 35 is often presented as a risky decision—risky for the health of the mother and the baby and risky in its likelihood of success. The risks may often be overstated, as described in a recent Atlantic Monthly article.