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Beyond Blame

Freeing yourself from toxic emotional bullsh*t

Anger
When All Else Fails

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on November 7, 2013

I'm at the end of my rope with my loved one - what do I do?

I'm at the end of my rope with my loved one - what do I do?

Fear
Saved by Art And Truth

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on January 6, 2013

The movie 'Lincoln' demonstrates the power of art to unearth deeper truths.

The movie 'Lincoln' demonstrates the power of art to unearth deeper truths.

Guilt
Stuck in Remorse and Guilt

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on December 12, 2012

How can you help someone fixated on past mistakes?

How can you help someone fixated on past mistakes?

Divorce
The High Cost of Marital Legal Battles

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on October 31, 2012

Before turning a dissolving marriage into a legal or custody battle, consider these factors.

Before turning a dissolving marriage into a legal or custody battle, consider these factors.

Forgiveness
Using Blame Pushes People Away

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on August 13, 2012

She constantly criticizes me and I'm slowly shutting down—what do I do?

She constantly criticizes me and I'm slowly shutting down—what do I do?

Marriage
Stopping Sarcasm

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on June 22, 2012

People can be addicted to a hurtful way of speaking because there's an instant subliminal payoff.

People can be addicted to a hurtful way of speaking because there's an instant subliminal payoff.

Career
How to Get a Good Job

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on June 4, 2012

Dear Dr. Alasko: Last year I had enough of studying subjects I found useless and quit college. I've since learned that employers are biased in favor of a college graduate.

Dear Dr. Alasko: Last year I had enough of studying subjects I found useless and quit college. I've since learned that employers are biased in favor of a college graduate.

Relationships
How to Create New Patterns

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on May 22, 2012

In my last blog post, I began answering a reader who wondered why so many of her relationships were unsuccessful, from a marriage to an emotionally abusive husband to her brother’s stealing from her.

In my last blog post, I began answering a reader who wondered why so many of her relationships were unsuccessful, from a marriage to an emotionally abusive husband to her brother’s stealing from her.

Relationships
Why Do Bad Things Happen to Me?

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on May 9, 2012

My experience has taught me that people who have difficulty recognizing when they're being exploited have a specific problem: They allow their emotions to overwhelm their thinking.

My experience has taught me that people who have difficulty recognizing when they're being exploited have a specific problem: They allow their emotions to overwhelm their thinking.

Mating
Asking Your Date Core Questions

Carl Alasko Ph.D. on May 2, 2012

Why be coy about something as serious as being serious? And especially as life-changing as having a child, or children?

Why be coy about something as serious as being serious? And especially as life-changing as having a child, or children?