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When the Worst Possible Thing Happens: Grief Cures Anxiety

For an anxiety addict, what happens when the very worst happens? What's an anxious mind to do? How did this one get past my supersonic, hypervigilant anxiety radar? I thought I had played out every possible loss, every scenario, all of the potential wolves and Nazis at the door. Never saw this one coming. Read More

The loss of Diego, my brother.

Hello Pamela,

The unthinkable happened to my family on February 6, 2014 when, Diego my 25-year old brother, was struck and killed by a drunk driver while jogging about a mile from my parents' home. Diego was one of the finest people that has existed on this earth. Not once did we stop speaking to each other or even get mad at each other. I was 12-years old when he was born, and I can tell you that was one of the best, happiest days of my life. It is a moment that I now play over and over in my mind. As a result I do believe I lost most of my anxiety - unfortunately I'm afraid of the dark now. My heart is more open that it has ever been and I find comfort and joy in that. The grieving process is complicated. I'm slowly finding words to voice the wave of emotion going through me. I'm slowly mending my heart. Diego: I love you.

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Pamela Cytrynbaum teaches at Northwestern University's Medill School of Journalism.


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