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This was posted in my brother's office. It is, I imagine, precisely what he would say to me about living through his death. If I made resolutions, this would be mine:

"I beg have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer."
--Rainer Maria Rilke

Pamela Cytrynbaum teaches at Northwestern University's Medill School of Journalism.


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