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Shootings, Stigma, and the Myth of Safety

The holiday season is often difficult for me. It’s s a time of particular loneliness for many on the spectrum – where the emphasis is on a social world that isn’t easy for us to navigate. For me, it’s also difficult for other reasons. Because it brings back bad memories. Read More

Just some thoughts...

Thanks for pointing out 2 of the children killed in the shooting were autistic. I had not heard that anywhere else.

This is just my two cents as an adult diagnosed with Aspergers in their later years, but I often think the diagnosis hurts more than it helps. Maybe for young kids its ok if it allows them to get therapy when they are young that will benefit them. But sometimes I wonder if the label doesn't hurt them as much as help. I have told other adults who insisted they were Aspies, but angry that they could not get a diagnosis that it changes nothing to have the diagnosis as there is no help offered for high functioning adults. Instead I think letting people know you got the diagnosis makes them suddenly change the way they regard you or treat you if they knew you beforehand. I experienced that with several people in my life. Also if you walk around letting everyone know ahead of time you are on the spectrum it shuts many doors in your face. Honestly I wished I had not been diagnosed and it was not in my medical record because it has caused me more harm than good. Now with this kinda media stigmatizing of the Autistic I will try even harder to cover up that I may be on the spectrum since I am high functioning enough to fly under the radar sometimes. I say *may be* on the spectrum because I'm honestly not convinced years later after giving it some thought that I really have Aspergers. Several doctors disagreed with the ones who diagnosed. My parents were very anti-social and I was raised in isolation so I wonder if my social problems are more from the way I was raised versus being a bonefide organic disorder since birth. I do suspect at least one, if not both, parents were on the spectrum. However I am so much better functioning and more social than either that it makes me think I may be a neurotypical with social issues only because of how I lived in forced isolation. Regardless having the label is not always helpful, so really think about it before you start carrying around that label or before you permanently attach it to your child.

Thanks for sharing with us

Thanks for sharing with us this article, and reinforcing the notion that we can't blame a tragedy on mental illness or videogaming. However, I have a request. At the end you sourced out an article by Friedman implying only 4% of crime is mental-health related. I am unable to find the source, is it possible you can link it to me as I'd like to further look into it!

Thanks for sharing with us

Thanks for sharing with us this article, and reinforcing the notion that we can't blame a tragedy on mental illness or videogaming. However, I have a request. At the end you sourced out an article by Friedman implying only 4% of crime is mental-health related. I am unable to find the source, is it possible you can link it to me as I'd like to further look into it!

The article was b y Dr. Adelai

I recommend directing that question to the author of the post I linked to. She included quotes, so she should be able to guide you as to where to obtain the full text.

Thank You

Thank you for such a clear perspective about the circumstances and attitudes surrounding the shooting. My favorite line came at the end, about honoring the victims by refusing to buy into simple stereotypes that harm those both on and off of the autism spectrum.

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