There is a great tragedy in this world, and that is people who are legitimately attracted to each other not hooking up.

I see it every day in bookstores, coffee shops and even supermarkets. Long looks over frozen bacon. He's a hottie, single-dad who enjoys walks in the park and Baskin Robbins. She's a hottie, single, karaoke singer who enjoys walks on the beach and Jamba Juice. It's not so much of a stretch to see they would be perfect for each other. But wham, bang, boom - nothing. They wheel their carts past each other as if it was commonplace to pass up your soulmate in the frozen food section.

But deep down they understand this tragedy. Their inner dialogues go something like this: "#*%^@%*!"

It's frustrating when we see someone we're attracted to and don't at least say hello. Guys tend to beat themselves up over this, "I'm such a coward. She was perfect but I did nothing. I'm going to rent Clint Eastwood movies until I become a real man."

Whereas women tend to think there is something wrong with themselves. "That guy looked me up and down but didn't say hi or anything. I'm leaving these groceries in the cart and going to the gym instead."

Think about that for a second. If your dad had never hit on your mom, you would not be here right now—or you might be calling Ted Kennedy daddy. See what I mean by tragedy? Without sounding too grandiose, the fate of humanity depends on my work - the work I do at Charisma Arts, and the fact that you are reading this blog right now.

In this blog, I hope to teach you many things about being a charismatic communicator. I will sculpt your skills at interacting with strangers for business, pleasure, and maintaining a stable world population. But in order to continue with me, you have to take an oath. Repeat after me: "I (insert name) do solemnly swear to take action when the moment calls for it. If I fail to take action, I agree that Wayne Elise can have all my money, fame (if applicable), family, and friends. He may kidnap my dog and live in my house. I will hold my head in shame and move to Toledo."

Okay, good. Next time we will get right into it with a discussion about what to do about what we call "approach anxiety."