I am looking forward to this blog topic. I agree fully with your view that we live in a fear based society with enormous pressures. I would like to add that I think people even become anxious about being anxious. I went through a recent divorce and although it was at times very rough, I kept my anxieties about the future at bay. People were very bothered by this. They would ask me questions like "Will you get married again? What if you never meet anyone?"
When I would answer "I don't know, but I'm not worried", people seemed very uncomfortable. They seemed stressed about my lack of stress. I am now dating a great guy and am very happy. It happened quite quickly and I actually wondered if it was wrong for it to have been so easy? I refuse to be anxious over not being anxious, however. That is just silly, especially as a person who has overcome crippling social anxiety. Perhaps that triumph gave me an overall calm. Who knows. I choose not to worry about it:)

I like Becky's spirited statement, "I refuse to be anxious over not being anxious." Based on the cognitive therapy research, it is not surprising that this is working for her. By contrast, many newer approaches to anxiety have suggested that we cannot control it without outside gimmicks, like eye movements. Or, they promote a return to the early theories of Carl Rogers, just unconditionally "accepting" it all. However, the intention to use one's conscious mental abilities to learn to control or master worry is necessary to overcoming it, in my opinion. In cognitive therapy – like in Becky’s own experience – the potential to stop anxiety is within our own personal control. I have read Dr. Leahy’s book, The Worry Cure, and he explains this theory quite well.

I have alot of anxiety at night around bedtime where my thoughts ring something like, "You haven't accomplished enough today". I read alot of self-improvement books in my early 20s giving me very high expectations of myself and a very idealistic perspective of what I should be doing/accomplishing, and in what direction I should be going.

I ended up going through a divorce and losing a job which were both painful and difficult and still affect me today. On the positive side, my striving has opened up the door for a great career opportunity, and my divorce gives me the opportunity to find a partner who can more appreciate what I want to accomplish in my career and in our family relationship. Sometimes I wonder if all the striving is worth it considering the problems I've had in my personal and job relationships. Even with all the striving, I find myself often in fearful ruts wishing I could just relax and unwind without feeling worthless.

I know I'm prone to anxiety and depression as well. As Leahy describes above, I think my social-connectedness needs work, and I've been making some powerful strides with my family and friends and feeling good about it. I'm considering going back to church and doing more community work to feel better about my social connections and service to the community.

I guess I just wonder if anyone can relate to my story or has suggestions.

For years and years I have taken meds to help me with my disorder. My world has shrunk due to avoidance, and I mean literally shrunk as I do not drive beyond my town and I will not be a passenger with anyone except the few people who know of my disorder.
Someday, and I can imagine it, I will drive to the beach or to the city, or to the country. I see it as a happy and carefree day. I simply haven't figured out how to get beyond the panic attacks while I am behind the wheel of a car. It's just too dangerous to have a panic while driving.
Any ideas on this?

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Thanks Dr. Leahy. Anxiety is truly a global problem affecting all walks of life from all cultures. Thanks to people like you we can increase awareness and help one another.

Sincerely, Bill

Thank you for the article.
I'm really grateful, for the fact I can get the support I need
online. There are several blogs, and numerous forums where you can get the support you need.
One of my favorite blogs is
http://anxiousangst.blogspot.com/
Looking forward to seeing some more articles!

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I think to some extent everyone has anxiety, some people just know how to deal with it in a way that they never realize that they have a problem.

I do think it has gotten to be more of a problem in recent years, and I agree with you that our culture of bad news has a lot to do with it. People spend to much time watching cable news shows and not enough time living.

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This song helped me through hard times and I hope it does for you as well. I was going through a divorce, and facing all kinds of problems with money. Daniel's song really helped me and I hope it does for you as well.

I am college student and I feel anxiety really gets me in so many ways. I often can not express myself because I get more and more anxious as I start to talk. I haven't really had any serious trauma but for some reason, I am having huge amount of stress at school and I am anxious to talk in front a small group of people.

I thought I would overcome that through practice but it seems to be getting worse! i don't know what else I could other than not speaking up in class.

I think Dr Leahy is right in saying that 24 hour news, doom, gloom, health warnings and the like increase anxiety. It feels like "The Age of Anxiety"! But maybe you need a valency for it to take a serious hold. There could be unconscious predisposition to anxiety, that is. Also, I know that many psychotherapy clients will admit to "liking" aspects of their anxiety. They have some attachment to the "buzz" and the attention they get - even if its painful and disturbing. That's not to say they don't want rid of it! They do. But they have to acknowledge what Lacan nicely called "jouissance", pleasure in pain.

I think Dr Leahy is right in saying that 24 hour news, doom, gloom, health warnings and the like increase anxiety. It feels like "The Age of Anxiety"! But maybe you need a valency for it to take a serious hold. There could be unconscious predisposition to anxiety, that is. Also, I know that many psychotherapy clients will admit to "liking" aspects of their anxiety. They have some attachment to the "buzz" and the attention they get - even if its painful and disturbing. That's not to say they don't want rid of it! They do. But they have to acknowledge what Lacan nicely called "jouissance", pleasure in pain.

to have an anxiety is one the difficult situation that experienced by every people. There should be a better and effective medication for people who are experiencing anxiety as well as depressions.

please help me i get alot of weird feelings i get dizziness, brain fog, derealization, fatige i get cramping type feeling in back of my head ear itchiness, nausia feeling in my stomach when some one slams a door or makes a banging sound i feel it more in my back then i do the sound in my ears i have racing thoughts i hear alot of noise in my head some nights i have restless sleep and sometimes im a little moody because of it. have never taken drugs or i dont drink alcohol i used to smoke for a couple of years but i quit when i had an episode…. i was trying to sleep one night and i got a weird feeling in my body like it had shut off and then i got up and slapped water on my face but i felt vibrating through my body i freaked out and had this rushing feeling up the back of head continuously hitting me every 2 seconds in waves i went to the ER and they told me to wait by the time they got to me i had gone it had stoped and i felt better but still really weird it had followed me around for 18 months now and whilst i still work and im all right i have had a couple of blood tests and an MRI i have seen a ENT Dr nothing has been found a liitle sinus problem but nothing big…i feel like i am in a movie most of the time i have never had heart pulpitations and never sweat when anxious i constantly tap my foot and i get really scared when i get any weird pain in my head. and i always see colours in my vision i still have a good IQ when i take the test and i dont get huge highs and real bad lows im getting scared because if some one even mentions death i get anxious and go for a walk. i seen a therapist for 6 months but she never taught me anything she said i was already a cognitive thinker and make assumtions that i may have somataform disorder ( unlikely because thats intense ) she never offered me any constructive advice to what it was that i could have been feeling please tell me if you can help i dont want this to manifest into depression over this whole ordeal i have gotten really good at fighting this but i some days are hard to grasp i feel like i have got no head and i feel like i am letting this beat me. HELP please

oh and sometimes i feel sick to the stomach and get this real light headed deep feeling of dread and i just feel like i have a blanket wrapped around my head i feel like i am trapped inside my head and i panic because i feel like i might forget where i am or i keep feeling like im going to loose my way…….i also get these feeling of like iv been away somewhere and cant seem to phatham what i have done for the last few years kind of like my thoughts are going faster that my head can keep up with and it makes me panic and it is pretty scary. Last night whilst i was trying to sleep it felt like my side of my head and face was numb and this made me real anxious and i was reading to distract myself and it felt like my eyes flicked side to side but thy didnt it scared the hell out of me iv had many test all came up good it just kinda feels like my brain is doing somersaults in my head it is so much worse when im tired and that seems to be all the time lately please help me with this

I agree that we're bombarded by too much information daily, and sad to say, most of the information we get do provoke anxiety. But I think we can be proactive in selecting the information that we pay attention. Im not saying that we should retreat from the world, but we can definitely choose not to pay something more attention than it deserves.

Even if I say all this, I still find it hard at times to get rid of a thought. I guess that's our curse as sufferers of anxiety disorders.

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Regardless of how the anxiety is formed within us, there is one undeniable truth that can help you keep your anxiety under control, and possibly be rid of it forever...

WE HAVE TO DECIDE TO TAKE ACTION!!

Social anxiety hindered me for way too long. I felt helpless, like I was never going to overcome it. I went to the therapist, took medication (Paxil), and ultimately relied upon the internet for help.

I came across a ton of useful information, but none of it was helping me. Not until I realized that I had to man up and, like Nike says, "JUST DO IT!"

I began forcing myself to talk to EVERYONE I came into contact with. It made for some very awkward moments, and was probably the hardest 3 weeks of my life. But, after that initial awkardness, my anxiety started to melt away. The best way I can describe it is like getting a vaccination. They give you a small dose of the virus, which in turn builds up your immunity to it.

Fight your anxiety head on, and there is a better than average possibility you can overcome what has held you back for so long.

Best of luck!

Sincerely,

Tyler H
www.howiconqueredmyanxiety.com

Very good post and obviously well thought out.

I used to suffer from extreme anxiety to the point where I wouldn't leave the house (call it agoraphobic if you like but I never found the label terribly important). If I would have had this type of information when I was struggling, life would been quite a bit easier. I try to help people now with their anxiety, and I applaud you for doing the same. My Fear of Driving was particularly difficult, but that's all behind me now, and if I can do it, anyone can so have hope!

One of the best things I did to reduce anxiety was to stop watching the news on TV. Dr leahy is right, we don't need a constant bombardment of horror and tragedy in our lives. I'd rather focus on what's good about life.

For the times I still get overwhelmed with life I turn to natural remedies and self help techniques rather than medication:
http://www.naturalanxietysolutions.com/recommended_natural_anxiety_produ...

One approach to working with anxiety that I find consistently effective in my practice involves teaching clients how to form a stable relationship with their inner experience of anxiety. This may sound strange, but if you take a closer look at your actual inner experience of an emotion, you will almost always get some form of inner imagery. This effectively encodes the emotional energy of the emotion. If you can form a relationship with this imagery through focused mindfulness, you may discover that the imagery starts to undergo a process of transformation that leads to resolution.

We all know the importance of getting in touch with our feelings and we all know that the only way to resolve anxiety and depression is through facing them and not avoiding them or feeding the tiger through further reactivity. You have to learn how to "sit" with the emotion and stay there, fully present and fully aware. When you approach anxiety in this way you create a "therapeutic space" around the emotion, and this inner freedom facilitates healing.

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