Steven -

Would you please elaborate: How do you teach your participants to keep their commitment to be compassionate under stress and in conflict.
I would like very much to read more about the how to's. If you have already written a piece on this please include the URL.
That information would be extremely useful.

Thank you.

It depends on an habituation process. This is from an earlier post:

Beyond Anger Management
In the 21st Century, the therapeutic treatment of anger problems must finally address their cause: perceptions of vulnerability and threat that have become habituated and, therefore, resistant to conscious insight and management. We need to develop habituated responses, which condition the activation of one domain (vulnerability-threat-anger-attack) to activate another (internal value-human other-heal-improve). We must condition habits of automatically raising core value whenever it is lowered, which reduces the motivation to devalue others. This is the goal of most of my work.

There is lots of material on it in my books and free on http://compassionpower.com

Sorry, But this seems very helpful and at the same time like it is really taking advantage of people in need. If you really have suggestions for help, can they be done without buying a book?

Thanks,

Is a commitment to compassion necessary upfront, or can the compassion be left to evolve as a participant goes through the boot camp/HEALS process? Can the initial motivation be self-healing, a desire to reduce their own anger, or generally a desire to improve interactions in the relationship? I ask because I am trying to determine how best to approach my wife with your book, and I'm not sure she is committed to compassion for me right now, because I think she sees me as the source of her unhappiness in the relationship. My hope is that your book will result in increased compassion for me, but I don't think she's committed to it right now.