Anger in the Age of Entitlement

Cleaning up emotional pollution.

Marriage Help: Rear and Side View Mirrors

During conflict with anyone, but especially a loved one, your perspective becomes narrow, rigid, and resistant to any feedback that mitigates the negative assumptions you are currently making. Worse, you are all but oblivious to how you seem to your partner. Read More

perfect post, keep it up

perfect post, keep it up

adjusting mirrors

WOW...this came today of all days...I sit here with tears from an emotionally charged, angry outbursts morning...I have a spot on a lung that we only learned about Saturday and today, Monday they are taking me in at Doctor's ASAP...of course I am scared and my husband, when frightened, resorts to name calling, yelling, cursing, blow ups, dumping...etc. He did this after my mother died two weeks ago today...waking me up two nights in a row drunk and angry and verbally abusive...the stress of this marriage may be causative in any possible malignancy is what I am thinking...how could I possible go through a real heath crisis with someone like that? Even though we are in our 60's!! he lowered the cost of the monthly health insurance premiums by choosing a lesser plan! I was astounded! Do I focus on getting him psychically and spiritually well for the rest of my possibly short life? even with perfect health I am 63...and life is short...I need to help heal him and US as a couple before I can have a reasonably or minimally calm, kind partner to be with in the months and/or years ahead...this seems a daunting task to me...Herculian would be the word to describe it accurately.

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This post in about ordinary relationships, not abusive ones. I have made many posts on abusive relationships, and there is much free information on our website at compassionpower.com. See the posts: http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlemen... and http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlemen... You cannot heal your husband - only his own compassion can do that. But you can heal yourself. You deserve to heal yourself. Best wishes

SIDE VIEW MIRRORS ARE GREAT, THANKS

I don't have alot to say but personally I had never thought of using side view mirror or for that matter adjusting them. When I have bad days I usually just duct and avoid the poison dart from other people. TALK ABOUT LEARNING SOMETHING NEW EVERYDAY!

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Steven Stosny, Ph.D., treats people for anger and relationship problems. Recent books: How to Improve your Marriage without Talking about It, and Love Without Hurt.

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