Anger in the Age of Entitlement

Cleaning up emotional pollution.

Steven Stosny, Ph.D., treats people for anger and relationship problems. Recent books: How to Improve your Marriage without Talking about It, and Love Without Hurt. See full bio

June 14, 2008, Parenting

Comments on "A Father’s Day Message: Protect Your Children’s Mother"

A Father’s Day Message: Protect Your Children’s Mother

By Steven Stosny on June 14, 2008 in Anger in the Age of Entitlement

The more a man values his children, the less likely he is to hurt their mother. In the vast majority of cases, the safest partner relationships are those in which the father feels emotionally connected to his children. Read More

My husband beat me up, not

Submitted by Anonymous on June 21, 2008 - 10:46pm.

My husband beat me up, not often. My son has married a woman who abuses him emotionally and has convinced him to give up all of his friends and family. She has done this by threatening their child.
My advice to women is to actively fight back and demonstrate going for help so that you won't have your children end up like my son.

Compassionate Assertiveness

Submitted by Steven Stosny on June 22, 2008 - 9:52am.

Seeking help is certainly a great thing to model for children. Fighting back is will only fuel the abuser’s self-righteousness. Even if non-abusive families, partners only remember what was done or said to them, not what they do or say. Rather, practice compassionate assertiveness, where you will not tolerate abusive behavior not only because it is harmful to you and your children, but also because it is harmful to the abuser. No matter how much he blames his behavior on the victim, in his heart he knows he does not like himself when he hurts someone he loves. The legacy of family abuse is self-loathing.

Abuse of Fathers!

Submitted by Anonymous on June 30, 2008 - 7:35pm.

What kind of Father's Day message is this? On a day set aside to honor the men in our lives, articles such as this flourish in the media. Shame on you! Would you write an article about terrible, abusive mothers on Mother's Day? Of course not! The worst abuses are by the court system--including counselors--who abuse fathers, and thereby children.