A major problem in the Age of Entitlement is the separation of rights from responsibility. "Getting your needs met," has become the motto of the times.
I've received several emails in response to my previous post, which echo hundreds I've gotten in response to my book, Love without Hurt, complaining about therapists who reinforced a sense of entitlement in them and their intimate partners.
In an effort to build boundaries and independence with clients, some well-meaning therapists emphasize rights and sacrifice responsibility. Well-intentioned relationship therapists sometimes separate entitlement from responsibility when trying to engage the most difficult of therapy populations - men. (There's an old joke that every marriage therapist has skid marks at the door where the husband is being drug in by his wife. Men come in far less often and drop out far more frequently than women.)
