Anger in the Age of Entitlement

Although this blog concerns the Age of Entitlement, I continue to be amazed when people protest about the "unfairness" of having to work to make their lives and relationships better. Unless you are lucky enough to have a personality predisposed to happiness, it does, indeed, take work to make yourself happy. The fact that you can work to make yourself happy is empowering; waiting vainly for someone else to do it for you is the ultimate in powerlessness. Read More

Anger management programs for emotional or verbal abusers sometimes produce short-term gains that disappear when follow-up is done a year or so later. That was probably your experience if your partner took an anger management class. If you're lucky, you may have seen a lower tone to the chronic blame - anger management classes sometimes turn a yeller into a stonewaller. Read More

If you live with a resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive person, you most likely have tried marriage counseling that made things worse at home. Read More

Value is "the human cobweb," as Jerome Kagan aptly put it. To know anything about spiders, you have to understand the one thing that makes them unlike all other insects: They make cobwebs. To know about human beings you have to grasp our ability to make things important to us - above and beyond survival utility - and worthy of appreciation, time, energy, effort, and sacrifice. You must understand our ability and our drive to create value. Read More